Guest Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 Hopefully I'll be able to explain my situation without sounding insanely crazy. I'm not sure why I feel this way - I try everything in my power to get these ridiculous thoughts out of my head but I can't seem to. My boyfriend and I are expecting a baby in a month from now. We're both very excited about this little one and I'm dying to be able to hold my baby in my arms. It's the first child for both of us. I'm currently on maternity leave (my line of work didn't allow me to work right up until delivery) and my boyfriend works full time. Since I've been at home all day alone cleaning and shopping, I've been getting crazy thoughts in my head that make me feel depressed. Our relationship hasn't been the hottest lately. I don't think that he's especially attracted to my new pregnant body and our sexual relationship has been suffering. During the day, I can get myself to tears almost instantly with thoughts of his past. You see, at the very beginning of our relationship, my boyfriend had an emotional affair (went out several times to see an ex - she thought they were dating at the time - and he didn't tell her about me). To make a long story short, as a typical curious woman, I did some investigating in his past and found a bunch of stuff I wish I hadn't. This woman he had the emotional affair with, had two miscarriages with him. I keep thinking that perhaps he just wants a child very badly and doesn't love me in the slightest. Our relationship has been suffering since the pregnancy. I try to explain to him that I need special attention right now and I need him to be especially sweet to me because I'm going through a hard time. He's my very best friend but I just don't feel any passion anymore. What I'm going through is ridiculous. I could be watching Beverly Hills 90210 (please God, don't laugh!) and watching the graduation episode. Then, my mind brings me back to his high school love of 5 years and I can't help but get an awful feeling inside. I think of the first time they slept together and the time he proposed to her, etc. She cheated on him and he finally came to his senses and dumped her. Why am I feeling like this? Is it my pregnancy hormones that are out of whack? Am I perhaps regretting my decision to have this man's child? Is it just 'cold feet' like before a wedding? Why am I so jealous about his past? Please help me! Has anyone else ever felt like this? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 I don't think ANY pregnant woman in the last month of her pregnancy feels hot, sexy or sexual. Or feels passion for her spouse, so try not to base what you feel now into the future. I'm sure your hormones have alot to do with this, all the worries and fears. Your husband has to be attentive to you, make you feel wanted and desired, so tell him that! And tell him your fears as well. PS I love 90210 as well and hey, I watch the re-runs! LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 You're suffering from a very common malady known technically as "baby-itis." Symptoms include, but are not limited to, wild mood swings, a diminished sex drive and a burning desire for pickles and ice cream. It's also perfectly normal. Link to post Share on other sites
Roo Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 Honey, Relax, you are normal the end of pregnancy and the hormones and the desire to get that bowling ball that wiggles out of your body and all sorts of irrational fears about your future about the baby and about your relationship are all par for the course, almost nothing short of giving birth is going to stop them so try to find something else to focus on, or do when the crazy thoughts start to invade a lot of free time to think about crazy **** at the end of your pregnancy is just that... A LOT OF FREE TIME TO DWEL ON CRAZY ****... you're normal very very normal, go get a massage relax take a hot bath, get out a sex toy and masturbate whatever it takes just find a way to relax... ((HUGS)) from someone who's been to the pregnant side of crazy more than once!!((Hugs)) Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 I really would chalk these feelings up to hormones AND to being at home all the time. That can make you CRAZY, especially if you're accustomed to being busy. You're bored and emotional, that's a tough combination. Link to post Share on other sites
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