Chance for reconcile?

[Parky]

You may want to read this http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t99099/

otherwise read the following:

 

Just some facts to cut this story short:-

1) We were loving and caring for each other. It was serious.

2) She agreed to see me in the future to go for a drink to see if a 2nd chance might work, she doesnt know if it will.

3) I did state i will change and use the time between now and the next meet to fix my self and learn.

4) Laura still loves me, but not in love.

5) I was the one that changed her life early on when she had trouble with her mother and other people.

6) She is the softest person i have met and get the feeling she may come crawling back to me sooner or later saying she regret the decision.

7) we gave each other more chances in the past. She said she deosnt want to carry on chance after chance so ended it.

8.) if it wasnt for me and my family, she wouldnt be where she is now. She didnt get on with her mum, and she lived with her ex boyfriend before me because she had no where to live. I was the one that reunited Laura and her mother.

 

So we broke up on the 13th of september. It was her idea. I agreed to it. I didnt believe her at first and i begged her back almost everyday for 6 days. I stopped on sunday the 17th. On sunday she was so stressed out that i kept calling her, and she started swearing alot and saying that i had done her head in so much. Then she went on to say that we are never going to get back together ever, so i said i won't contact you again at all from now on and i told her i promised, so she replied with a yes she will see me in a couple of months when things have calmed down. I know it was a bad mistake to beg that much.

 

She has told me she wants to be on her own and to leave her alone and in two months she would meet up with me to see if it will work again, if i have changed and if it will last etc.

 

I'm not going to hope and sit around waiting until the two months is up. im not really heart broken anymore, i just feel like i miss her company and can continue life like normal. I have been going out with my friends, i have joined a local gym and i start my second year degree course next week. So my life will be quite busy.

 

I always think to myself i hope that we can get back together in the future.

She isnt the type of girl that would jump from 1 guy to another and this is her first proper and longest relationship, and to be honest it's mine too.

 

So far it's the 3rd day NC and i dont feel like contacting her.

 

Do you think these two months will do us both good? Will she miss me at all during the couple of months, such as get a wave of feelings and memories every now and then? Lastly, do you know anyone that has had 2 months more or less and got back together because they fell for each other again?

[Princess112]

Not sure why, but it kinda... hurts me to hear you talk that way..

 

I'm not going to hope and sit around waiting until the two months is up. im not really heart broken anymore, i just feel like i miss her company and can continue life like normal.

 

as if I were placing myself in Laura's position. Do you still wish to do the flower idea? If you can "continue life like normal," then by all means, do so. And don't fall back on the meeting thing. I think it's a good idea that you two will meet up a short time afterwards. It is then and only then that you will realize what it is you want exactly, and whether the two if you still feel something for each other.

 

If you just miss her company though.. then you can propose to her then to be friends, and even if you no longer go out with her, at least send her a message every now and then (whether text, email, chat, any form of communication). Don't just say "what's up?" though.. it's a little impersonal and shows very little effort. At least, say "hey, what's up? I've been receiving a lot of exams in my classes these last two weeks, and I've been so overwhelmed and they're finally over! How has school been for you?"

You know... something like that, to update her a little on your life and a direct question about her life as well.

 

Lastly, do you know anyone that has had 2 months more or less and got back together because they fell for each other again?

 

As a matter of fact, I do. There are two couples that fall into this category (one for matters much worse than just ignoring the SO, such as infidelity) and they took time off and reflected in this period, saw each other again and realized they were truly in love. Now they're married with 1 child, another on the way, and it's been 7 years of a happy marriage. The other is still dating, and they waited THREE months before going to each other again. They're still together after 3 more years, and everything's going well for them. They worked out their problems. Laid everything on the table and were completely honest to each other.

 

Hope this helps

[Parky]

Well, i have different feelings all the time. One day i'd feel as though i'v gotten over it, other days it's just a complete nightmare and starts again. So i guess i cant continue life without her, i just don't want to throw away the relationship.

 

Thanks for your help and i will still do the flower thing. I really do hope we can be together.

[Princess112]

Everything will work out for the best, even if it might not seem that way at the time

 

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