blondepanther74 Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 To make this as short as possible and get to the point I will really condense my post. I left my ex 12 years ago, we lived in Hawaii at the time and it was a terrible goodbye. The last time I ever saw my ex was at the airport and hearing my name being yelled as I boarded the plane. We never saw each other again and divorced months later with me staying on the mainland. We never spoke again. We most definetly never got any closure. It has haunted me to this day, and my heart has never recovered. I may have physically left that day, but my heart stayed there. After 12 years, I love my ex with all my heart and soul. Now to July of this year... My father passed away out of the blue and I spoke at his funeral. I shared with everyone how short life is (my father was only 59 and in top notch shape) a pilot, who played raccquet ball daily. I told everyone that life was too short not to tell someone how you feel, because you may never get the chance. The odds are 100% that you or someone you love will die eventually. I started to think "what if I never get the chance to tell my ex I'm sorry or that I love you"? So the next day I tracked down my ex's number and with a very shaky hand dialed the number. My ex was completely blown away. We spoke for 30 minutes and we both felt so much better for having spoken to each other. It was a wonderful phone call and I'm so thankful that I had the courage to do it. I've not spoken to my ex again since that July day. We are both involved with other people, so out of respect for everyone I have never called again. My question is this... do I call again or leave my ex alone? We both shared how we both have kept all of our pictures of one another and it was clear during the phone call that we both still had feelings for each other. If you recieved such a call, would you want to hear from that person again or just be left alone to finish living out your life. My belief is that life is too short, to leave this planet with regrets and I should call. But then again, I think if my ex feels the same they'll call me. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Cheshire Cat Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 You are both involved with someone else ...as nice it might have been to hear from each other, as good as it might have felt to be on good terms with him again, let the past be past. Be careful with stirring up old emotions - you might scrap from the bottom of the cauldron something that will spoil all the love potion you should be drinking with your SO. Link to post Share on other sites
umbo Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 Maybe it is the condense version I don't get but YOu left your husband because your heart had no strength to endure with your ex. Then your heart tells you to get involve with some one else. Then your heart has an idea that life is too short. So now your heart wants to reconnect and reinjure your ex brokenheart and cause the one he is with her heart to feel uncomfortable. For a person with your many accomplisments don't let your heart do the thinking. Life is to short to look back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author blondepanther74 Posted September 21, 2006 Author Share Posted September 21, 2006 Thanks for the advice, I'll take it to heart. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 I noticed that you purposefully kept it uncertain what gender you and your ex are. If you're members of the same sex and are now involved with people of the opposite sex then it's possible that YOU are living in a lie about who you are and what you want in life. Even if you're a man and a woman, my impression is the same - that you're not over your ex and would like another chance. If so, call your ex and ask her/him openly about their feelings for you. And be honest to yourself and your current partner about what and whom you want. Link to post Share on other sites
Diver012 Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 I read this last night and it forced me to face a truth ive been turning away from for years.... There is a woman I have known since I was 18. Ive had feelings for her but I never really faced them. Throughout the years I have learned to push them down and move on to other things. For some reason after a while they would resurface and I would push them back down. Well, when I was about 25 or so she met someone who sounded like a really good man and I was was so happy for her. I thought I had completely let it all go. We kept in touch but never really talked all that often. Well about 2 years ago I talked with her only to find out that her and this other guy were basically broken up. *WHAM* All of the sudden here come those feelings again. I then find out she's dating someone else and I was a tiny bit hurt, but I quickly let it go again. After my breakup with my last Ex, I dont know why or even how at this point, through the pain and all, my feelings for her started to resurface again. I just can't keep ignoring this anymore. I need to face how I feel and the only way I could think to do that is to tell her how I feel and whats been going on. I sent her that email last night after reading this thread. I dont know whats going to happen from here, but I think its time I confronted this once and for all... Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 16, 2006 Share Posted October 16, 2006 To make this as short as possible and get to the point I will really condense my post. I left my ex 12 years ago, we While realizing the old love will not come back, there will still be a kind of love for you to respect each other. keep that corner of your heart alive, it need not die. My B in law was able to have his ex wife as friend she attended family gatherings, we loved her more than him! and she is now dead - LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO NOT LOVE Link to post Share on other sites
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