aspenrange Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 So...i've been dating this guy for five months now. When we're together i get the feeling he likes me...from the way he holds my hand looks at me and until now treats me. We were just hooking up and had an equal understanding we would just let it be what it is. Had a great time for 3 months. Then i told him I liked him and would like to not sleep with other people (to prevent disease, and jealousy). He agreed. Things were great until a couple weeks ago. I called him to invite him to go out with me and some friends...and he was a jerk on the phone...it escalated because i told him i didn't like that he made me feel like and ass for calling. He got upset and yelled which made me cry. Then he said we shouldn't see eachother for a while (3weeks). I called the next day no answer. I sent a text and said ok i get it...no hard feelings. But it's been over a week and i have yet to hear from him...It was a suprise and all of the sudden. ...do i wait? how long? Is there hope? or am i kidding myself? Link to post Share on other sites
Ukwizard Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 How about a little more information. How was he a jerk on the phone? Maybe its time to call it off. He`s already yelled at you (I still don`t know what for!) He`s beginning to show his true colours now. Five montsh isnt a long time. There are other nice men out there that can treat you right. Dont chase after him. He should be apologising to you for yelling! If you go chasing after him, then he`s in control. Let him come back to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 Totally agree with Ukwizard. 5 months is not that long. He should still be treating you like a queen. It is true his colors are showing and they aren't pretty ones. I wish you hadn't sent the text but I know it is hard when things turn so quickly. Do not chase him. And if he calls or gets in touch I would make it very clear that you realize he crossed a huge boundary with you and he will not get away with that. Be cool. Not cold but cool. Let him try really hard to make it up to you. It should be clear that the consequences of treating you badly can mean you are GONE at any time. If he doesn't try to make it up to you, even if he contacts you, remember that if he thinks you are a pushover you are setting yourself up for more of the same treatment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aspenrange Posted September 21, 2006 Author Share Posted September 21, 2006 He was yelling that this wasn't the first time i brought up that he was being a jerk on the phone. He said he didn't know what he was going to do with me and maybe we needed time. He said " I think one of us is more emotionally attached than the other". All of wich was a total shock, that he would say those things (all excuses for why he isn't responsible for my emotions) Any time we had a problem before we sorted it out quite honestly and calmly. I know there are other men out there and ...I have no plans of beint the one to contact him again...he didn't answer the first time. I know i need time generally means...im trying to let you down without hurting you. And if he doesn't call you "he's just not that into you"...but say he does call and apoligize...and im willing to give him that chance...or at least hear what he has to say... when is it too long for me to wait? what do i do in the mean time? will he even call? Link to post Share on other sites
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