Tony (guest) Posted September 22, 2006 Share Posted September 22, 2006 ok been with my g/f for 4 years, she recently broke up with me 2 and a half months ago, I pushed her away because i was acting like an idiot. I thought our relationship was OVER, she said she didn't know what she wanted; she didn't know if she made that right decision (breaking up with me). She was severly depressed and stressed out. She said her heart was broken and that she couldn't do it anymore. Then a month passes on (during this 2 month period) and I kept asking her what she felt and all that stuff, "I just want to be friends," type stuff, pretty much telling me it was over but letting me down easy and being nice about it. So I back off and start to move on with my life even though I love this girl a-lot. During the end of the two month period it seems that her feelings were starting to resurface and she was starting to be more like herself again. Then she tells me that she made a very big mistake; she can't live without me that she wants me in her life, she wants to be with me for the rest of her life, she wants to be with me forever... you get the point. All this week all she has talked about it getting married and having kids, she sounds obsessed with this idea. We talk about it and I tell her that this is going way to fast and that we barely broke up and we need to work things out and I need to get my life together before we can do anything. She keeps saying she is ready to settle down now. I want to be married to her, have kids, settle down, all that good stuff. She barely broke up with me 2 and a half months ago and at first she didn't want to be with me, now lets get married and live are lives together. I know her feelings are starting to grow and come back because she mentioned it to me. But why is she so crazy about this marriage idea? Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted September 22, 2006 Share Posted September 22, 2006 She obviously realized she made a mistake, and by moving on with your life she realized that you actually can live without her. She's not keen on that idea, so she probably wants to make your situation permanent. Nothing wrong with that, of course, provided that you're on the same page. Also, she may have fallen into the trap of wanting a wedding. There's a huge industry that guilts women into thinking that if they don't have a large, horrifically expensive wedding then they're somehow missing out on something. So it may not be marriage that she wants; it's a wedding that she wants. Link to post Share on other sites
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