sweetie271 Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 I met a guy, who started flirting with me, and is attracted to me. We get on really well as mates. He asked for my number, which I didn't give to him (I was being too over cautious!) Now I wish I had. There is a girl who knows him, so I could ask her to give him my number, but it is so embarassing, do you think I should ask her anyway?
magichands Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 I met a guy, who started flirting with me, and is attracted to me. It is a common misconception that these two things are linked. We get on really well as mates. He asked for my number, which I didn't give to him (I was being too over cautious!) Now I wish I had. There is a girl who knows him, so I could ask her to give him my number, but it is so embarassing, do you think I should ask her anyway? Nope. My opinion is that you should be patient. Not in the context of playing doctors and nurses, but just bide your time. http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/exercise_doctors.shtml
Adunaphel Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 It is a common misconception that these two things are linked. He is right. Well, they actually *can* be linked - they usually are when the guy is mature, intelligent and not a player, but such a combination is unfortunately rather unusual. Any chances to see him again? You can still give him your number - or ask for his - next time!
Author sweetie271 Posted September 24, 2006 Author Posted September 24, 2006 He actually told me that he is attracted to me. Plus, I will only get to see him again, if I give the girl my number to give to him (its embarassing because I hardly know her, and don't know if she will laugh!) This is because he has now left the course to start a different one.
Adunaphel Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 He actually told me that he is attracted to me. Plus, I will only get to see him again, if I give the girl my number to give to him (its embarassing because I hardly know her, and don't know if she will laugh!) This is because he has now left the course to start a different one. You are still attending the same school, aren't you? Won't you be seeing him around?
Author sweetie271 Posted September 24, 2006 Author Posted September 24, 2006 Actually that is the bad thing, he won't be at the same place anymore, so I will never see him ever again, unless I give the girl this number, which is very embarassing!
superconductor Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Actually that is the bad thing, he won't be at the same place anymore, so I will never see him ever again... Which is why women should be unafraid of making the first move. Snooze = lose.
Author sweetie271 Posted September 24, 2006 Author Posted September 24, 2006 I have done that before, been too shy or embarassed to make a move. He already did ask for my number, so thats good. I don't want to lose him just because of shyness. I am just worried that the girl will be nasty or throw it away and not give it to him. I do like him, he is not a good boyfriend type (likes casual relationships), but makes a great friend. I want so much to be friends with him.
magichands Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 I want so much to be friends with him. Special.... friends ..... ? Those last couple of sentences confused me. Can you ask the girl for his number? How else could you get in touch with him?? Is there really no chance that you will "run into each other" if you just get on with your life?
Author sweetie271 Posted September 24, 2006 Author Posted September 24, 2006 Just friends (not special friends - like anything sexual like some people do!) - Because he is such a great person to be friends with. I felt so happy spending time with him, chatting and having a laugh. I will never see him, even by chance, unless I give the girl my number to give to him!
magichands Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 I will never see him, even by chance, unless I give the girl my number to give to him! Never say never! Again. Well, then. Go ahead. I wouldn't worry about what the girl thinks, but I understand your feeling that you're not sure if you can trust her. Maybe you could ask for his number?? And if that's not possible, then pass yours on.
Author sweetie271 Posted September 24, 2006 Author Posted September 24, 2006 I will just have to take the plunge and ask her to give my number to him. I do actually like him, (but he is not the boyfriend type, more the have lots of flings type-really seems to like me), not a good person to have as a boyfriend, but he is a great person to be friends with.
magichands Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 , not a good person to have as a boyfriend, but he is a great person to be friends with. You know what's best for you. I can't agree with this logic, however. Trust is trust is trust...I don't believe in "different" kinds. But then that might be just me.
Author sweetie271 Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 He just can't commit to being a boyfriend (because he has had emotional problems - he has leukemia). But he is great to his friends, most of whom he has been good mates with for years. So he is a good friend, but would not be a good boyfriend. I'm nervous about Friday, giving the girl my number, hope she does give it to him. Never done anything like this before.
Author sweetie271 Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 If I could do it that way I would, but I can't, as there is no way for me to find him. Like I said he is doing a completely doing a different training course (not sure where it is). I'll never see him anywhere! If I could just bump into him and give him my number, then I wouldn't give it to the girl. But it seems to be literally the only way. But of course, I don't know whether she will give it to him or not.
Guest Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 oh ok. . how about ask the girl? Talk to her and ask her some information about him. Well, you're right, you just have to give it a try to give your number to the girl. just face the consequences. You'll never know what will happen unless you ive it a try.
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