Guest Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 My ex lied to me, I left, but was open to reconcilliation, but it never came, the pain subsided and I moved on and married (37 years now) and am enjoying life. But I called old flame, just to see how life had treated her. She had some hard feelings, but a connection still existed. But what they say is true, the feelings came flooding back the pain and anxiety as if 39 YEARS had not happened. I hope to be able resolve this over the next week. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 I hope to be able resolve this over the next week. If you had resolved this 39 years ago then you wouldn't be dealing with this today.. Link to post Share on other sites
Ukwizard Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 I m with Art Critic with this one. You have a lot to learn. Do you think after 39 years, that things will be resolved in one week!!? Human emotions don`t come back after 1 week my friend. What you are doing is reminiscing the old times. Give it more than a week then lets see where you are. It takes more than a week to see if they want to be with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 Wow! I'm really interested in finding out how this turns out. But just a word of warning, I do beleive that you are playing with fire though. You mentioned that you were married. Why would you want to ruin what you already have for a stroll down memory lane with what didn't work out before? Dr. Phil once said that the best predictor of future behaviour is the behaviour displayed in the past. What ever problems you had before will just creep up again. I think that you are very brave to share this information, Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 16, 2006 Share Posted October 16, 2006 late mid life crisis perhaps? Mid life? perhaps. I was glad to find her well, then I found out that communications 39 years ago , were not passed along, others told lies, and she tried to contact me over the years but had no contact info, so in effect I abandoned her more than once. on second marriage with kids, is happy and that eases my mind. We talk occasionaly, of course not much in common, but her first marriage was bad, and yes I feel responsible for that. She sounds stronger now than she was decasdes ago. Glad to know some reality does exist. Link to post Share on other sites
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