Guest Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 Hey guys......just found this forum and needed a place to ramble, so I hope this is okay... Anyway, basically myself and all my guy friends are in our Junior year of HS and none of us have really ever had a girlfriend. We've talked about it before, and something came up about it again so thats why I'm here. I'd say that all of us are like decent looking guys....we are kind of nerdy on the inside (video games and ****), but we definitley look like the average kind of guy. I really love music, play bass guitar, am a nice, funny, smart guy, but for some reason girls have always eluded me. Ever since freshman year, I kept thinking that the next year would be better, and then the next, but nothing ever changes. I think my biggest problem is mostly that I'm pretty shy, and just don't really talk to girls all that much. Like I will talk to ones in my classes maybe, but not ever am really good friends with them, or they arent girls I like, or are out of my league....I'm also not a party kind of guy. A LOT of people my age just party and get drunk every weekend, and I'm sure talk/meet a lot of girls there, but I dont really want to do that. I usually just go hang out with my guy friends and drive around or whatever....so no girls there either It seems like always the girls that I like (or think I do) are either probably way too good looking for me, or the girls that I would guess are in my "league" are girls I dont even know, and I just see them walking in the halls and think they are attractive. How exactly are you supposed to know who is in your range anyway? I guess I'm just rambling here, but it's pretty frusterating. I dont know girls that I could like because I dont talk to them, but I dont talk to them because I don't know them. Someone has to have some good advice on this, since I'm sure its probably came up more then once. Thanks.......... Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 You're young so you really don't need to be worrying so much about it. Everyone hits their stride at a different pace, so yours is still in the future when you're around more girls you have stuff in common with. High school is a very, very, very limited dating pool. In college, you'll likely meet a lot more girls you have things in common with. Getting to know them is a matter of opening your mouth and being friendly - say hello and smile. Getting involved with activities that you enjoy is likely to bring you into contact with girls that like the same stuff you do - you ought to be able to easily talk to them about the interests you have in common. When you get to college, join the college radio station, or form a band, or whatever...there will be girls who will be into those things. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 Well it's not like I sit around and worry about it all day, but it's just something thats always made me wonder......I just always thought that sometime through HS I was bound to find someone that I liked, and liked me (maybe not, hah) When there are many other guys your age, and much younger with girlfriends, it just seemed like it should be easy or something. Guess all I can do is just wait and hope I finally meet someone then, eh? Link to post Share on other sites
lilywhite64 Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 Meeting people is difficult when you're shy, I know this from firsthand experience. I had a boyfriend in High School but I didn't meet him in school, I met him in a youth organization. I never had a boyfriend in school. I met my husband on a camping trip ... my parents belonged to a club and he came with a friend of his who belonged to the same club. I did have a party girl life for about 3 years and was quite reckless about some things during that time. Not adviseable!! The quality will come and it does help to be mature enough to know that you don't have to date the prom queen to be happy. The girls you see in the hall probably have crushes on you and are just as scared of you. I would have been one of those girls in high school. Something to think about. It's definately hard to 'put yourself out there' when you fear being rejected but there are ways to get to know someone without it being a 'date' ... maybe you aren't going to get 'MADE' on mtv ... but if you watch that show it might give you some ideas of how to feel the fear and do it anyway (in fact that is the name of a book you might want to get and read) Link to post Share on other sites
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