HOw Long...?

[Guest]

Hi All,

 

I just would like to know..

 

How long does it take to get over an A..?? & is the M the same as b4?

Has anyone ever regreted going back to their S??

 

...? HAs the OW/OM ever come back in the picture AFTER gettn caught..?

[Walking away]

It is currently six months post discovery day. His wife found out about me six months ago, almost to the day.

 

The contact has never really stopped. He still emails me and rarely calls. The majority of the time, I ignore his emails, but admittedly, sometimes I respond. I, too, am human.

 

We had made a pact that we would keep the email account open in the event that something happened to either one of us, we would be notified by an appointed person of the other's demise or illness.

 

Four days ago, I closed the account. It was being used for reasons other than the intended use. And it hurt me and him to have this contact. And it would hurt HER to know about the contact.

 

For the first time in six months, he is able to travel without either her or one of their children today. Ironically, he has asked to fly me out and see him on this first trip alone since she found out about me.

 

Obviously, I am here on LS instead of in the air meeting him.

 

So, to answer your question. Yes, the OW can come back into the picture after he gets caught.

 

Whether she chooses to STAY in the picture is quite another story.

 

I, for one, am choosing to stay right where I am today. There will be no flights today or ever to see him again.

 

He will not cut the cord, so I am. The craziness stops here.

 

And there will be no settling for less than I am worth ever again. I've been there, done that. Never doing it again.

 

I had always told myself that if he wanted me, he would come find me when he is FREE and AVAILABLE to do so. Any other way is simply nonsense.

 

I am not holding my breath for he has much to lose.

 

WA

[pricillia]

It is currently six months post discovery day. His wife found out about me six months ago, almost to the day.

 

The contact has never really stopped. He still emails me and rarely calls. The majority of the time, I ignore his emails, but admittedly, sometimes I respond. I, too, am human.

 

We had made a pact that we would keep the email account open in the event that something happened to either one of us, we would be notified by an appointed person of the other's demise or illness.

 

Four days ago, I closed the account. It was being used for reasons other than the intended use. And it hurt me and him to have this contact. And it would hurt HER to know about the contact.

 

For the first time in six months, he is able to travel without either her or one of their children today. Ironically, he has asked to fly me out and see him on this first trip alone since she found out about me.

 

Obviously, I am here on LS instead of in the air meeting him.

 

So, to answer your question. Yes, the OW can come back into the picture after he gets caught.

 

Whether she chooses to STAY in the picture is quite another story.

 

I, for one, am choosing to stay right where I am today. There will be no flights today or ever to see him again.

 

He will not cut the cord, so I am. The craziness stops here.

 

And there will be no settling for less than I am worth ever again. I've been there, done that. Never doing it again.

 

I had always told myself that if he wanted me, he would come find me when he is FREE and AVAILABLE to do so. Any other way is simply nonsense.

 

I am not holding my breath for he has much to lose.

 

WA

 

 

I think that I will read this over and over and over again. This will help me.

 

ok I have to go I am going to re-read it again...

[BruiserKC]

I have never had an affair...I know before I got married I was on the receiving end of being cheated on. I'll be honest...there are little things you can let slide in relationships.

 

However, to me...cheating is the one thing I never get over and can never forgive. To me, that's the ultimate breach of trust and is unacceptable. My girlfriends that did that to me got their butts kicked to the curb. No questions asked, no excuses, no second chances.

 

Cruel, perhaps. Justified? Absolutely. And I never looked back wondering whether I should have given them a second chance.

[Guest]

It is currently six months post discovery day. His wife found out about me six months ago, almost to the day.

 

The contact has never really stopped. He still emails me and rarely calls. The majority of the time, I ignore his emails, but admittedly, sometimes I respond. I, too, am human.

 

We had made a pact that we would keep the email account open in the event that something happened to either one of us, we would be notified by an appointed person of the other's demise or illness.

 

Four days ago, I closed the account. It was being used for reasons other than the intended use. And it hurt me and him to have this contact. And it would hurt HER to know about the contact.

 

For the first time in six months, he is able to travel without either her or one of their children today. Ironically, he has asked to fly me out and see him on this first trip alone since she found out about me.

 

Obviously, I am here on LS instead of in the air meeting him.

 

So, to answer your question. Yes, the OW can come back into the picture after he gets caught.

 

Whether she chooses to STAY in the picture is quite another story.

 

I, for one, am choosing to stay right where I am today. There will be no flights today or ever to see him again.

 

He will not cut the cord, so I am. The craziness stops here.

 

And there will be no settling for less than I am worth ever again. I've been there, done that. Never doing it again.

 

I had always told myself that if he wanted me, he would come find me when he is FREE and AVAILABLE to do so. Any other way is simply nonsense.

 

I am not holding my breath for he has much to lose.

 

WA

 

 

Thank you so much.

The past couple of months it one drama after another.

For the first time yesterday... i didnt think of MM... { OMG! }

to be completly honest i dont know if i am happy about that concept.

 

How do you say goodbye to someone that is never there to hear yours words??... [ am i making any sense?]

My friends say that the best way to get ova someone is to go get another someone..? i think thats unfair to the other person.

 

I have cried in front of him ONCE! & i vowed i would never do it again [@ least to his face].... & when we got caught & question by the W. I stayed strong & just looked @ him straight in the eye & said that i was gonna miss him & let her do all the talking... [ she is not a very nice person] - i am NOT the only one that said this.... other ppls too... We are so differnt in so many ways... & well i guess she wanted to make it work YET he still callin me....

I just dont understand...!!.... how can somone say in a place where they are not happy...? [ so he claims]...

 

how can u go NC on someone & not get closure?....