Calling a girl I just met

[Scooter]

I posted here about asking this girl out. Well, I called her a few days ago and got her machine. So I just left her a message saying Hi and left my number.

 

It's been a few days already and she hasn't called back. It is possible she's been busy or wasn't in town. Should I expect her to call me back or should I attempt to call her again since it has been several days? I was told some women usually don't call guys they just met and expect the guys to do most of the calling at first.

 

I don't know if she is interested or maybe she changed her mind. What should I say if I call again and get her machine? Should I even bother to leave her another message?

 

I really appreciate any help on this. Thanks.

[yes]

Why don't u write her an e-mail?

 

If you don't have the address, call once again - just in case... try to call at a time when she'll be home, most likely...

 

I think a good rule is - try to contact her twice, and if she doesn't show any signs of contacting u back - forget it, she's being rude.

 

-yes

I posted here about asking this girl out. Well, I called her a few days ago and got her machine. So I just left her a message saying Hi and left my number. It's been a few days already and she hasn't called back. It is possible she's been busy or wasn't in town. Should I expect her to call me back or should I attempt to call her again since it has been several days? I was told some women usually don't call guys they just met and expect the guys to do most of the calling at first. I don't know if she is interested or maybe she changed her mind. What should I say if I call again and get her machine? Should I even bother to leave her another message? I really appreciate any help on this. Thanks.

[Tony T]

Call once more and mark your call private (*67). If she's not there, DON'T leave a message.

 

Leaving a message puts you in the awkward position you're in now. Leaving a message for ANYBODY gives them total power over your life where they are concerned. In other words, at the moment you leave a message you toss the power over the situation to them and you are at their mercy.

 

When you want to talk to somebody and it's important, keep calling until you get them. There are a lot of rude people who don't return phone calls unless there is something for them to gain...and there are a lot of others who just forget. There are people who are weird and zoned out. There are people who are procrastinators. There are people who are very shrewd and coy.

 

And there are machines that don't work. And there are people who erase messages before others get them....etc., etc., etc., I hope you get the message!!!

[velvet]

You attempted to contact her. Now its the wait game.

 

Maybe she cannot find the time during her busy schedual to get back in touch. Or maybe shes out of town for the week at a seminar or visting a relative. Maybe she does not live alone and the message was erased from a roommate.

 

Perhaps she has tried to contact you and has been unable to reach you. Maybe you werent home. Or she decided not to leave a message on a recorder.

 

Call her again and give her the best number to reach you at with the best time of day to reach you.

 

I encourage you to call again. If you do not reach her you dont have to leave a message but just try back another time.

Call once more and mark your call private (*67). If she's not there, DON'T leave a message.

 

Leaving a message puts you in the awkward position you're in now. Leaving a message for ANYBODY gives them total power over your life where they are concerned. In other words, at the moment you leave a message you toss the power over the situation to them and you are at their mercy. When you want to talk to somebody and it's important, keep calling until you get them. There are a lot of rude people who don't return phone calls unless there is something for them to gain...and there are a lot of others who just forget. There are people who are weird and zoned out. There are people who are procrastinators. There are people who are very shrewd and coy. And there are machines that don't work. And there are people who erase messages before others get them....etc., etc., etc., I hope you get the message!!!

[Ed]

Does this dance class meet on a regular basis, like once a week? If so, don't call her again. Just wait until you see her at the dance class. Go up to her and talk to her as you have before. Don't ask her if she got your message. If she got the message, she may mention it and make some excuse for not calling you back. If she somehow didn't get the message or she did, but doesn't say anything about it, just let it go. Act the same way you did before you got her phone number and before you tried to call her.

 

Be friendly and don't act as if you are desperate to go out with her. If she is attractive and single, you are not the only guy that has her phone number. Take your time and be patient. Just be friendly and play it cool.

 

Whether she shows up at dance class or not call her again a couple of days later. If you catch her at home, make some conversation, then ask her out. If she does not answer again, leave her a message that you were trying to reach her, but don't leave your phone number.

 

That's about enough strategic information for now. Let us know what happens. I'm waiting to find out what kind of dancing you are learning how to do.......