quietintrovertgirl Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 Is this man using me?I need somebody advice.I met this older man on a involuntary celibate board.I notice something this weekend.He's been asking me for phone sex wothin a year and i say no.Everytime i say no.He doesn't email/pm me as much.He claims he's busy with work and his kids but i keep seeing him post on the boards.Is this man using me?I think so Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 How can he be using you if you are always saying no? Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Doe Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 The times he's "busy" is when he's talking to people who will have phone sex with him. Ditch him. He's out for himself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author quietintrovertgirl Posted September 24, 2006 Author Share Posted September 24, 2006 How can he be using you if you are always saying no? He keep saying he wants to be my "Friend". Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Doe Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 Sorry, but that's a line. "Friends" don't ask friends for phone sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author quietintrovertgirl Posted September 25, 2006 Author Share Posted September 25, 2006 I've read some posts on love shack and my friend story is tame compare to others.I didn't have sex with my friend only cybersex. Link to post Share on other sites
lilywhite64 Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 If the man you speak of stops talking to you when he doesn't get what he wants, find someone else to talk to. My take on it is that if you have to ask the question, "is he using me", you already know the answer. You're in denial because you WANT him to WANT to be your friend. He is not your friend. He is manipulating you ... if you continue to talk to him then you are only hurting yourself because he will continue to let you talk to him until he gets what he wants. MANIPULATION!! Link to post Share on other sites
HeyYouGuys Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 He doesn't sound friendly....he sounds creepy.... Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 If someone backs off because they are not getting what they want then there intention was not to be your friend. Link to post Share on other sites
hopeto Posted September 27, 2006 Share Posted September 27, 2006 No, I dont think so cause you are not in a relationship right? and if you are not in a relationship and you talk to him on the computer than he probly is not intrested in the relationship and only into sex. no harm in that. hope you are not sending him anything or giving anything to him cause if so then I would say yes he is using you. Link to post Share on other sites
konfuzd Posted September 30, 2006 Share Posted September 30, 2006 Why are you expecting a meaningful friendship from an "involuntary celibate" board? The title itself is simply a euphamism for "someone on here please do me now". I'd say the ratio of people on there who are not looking to use someone to get off is very, very small. Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Doe Posted September 30, 2006 Share Posted September 30, 2006 Excellent point, Konfuzd! Link to post Share on other sites
Author quietintrovertgirl Posted September 30, 2006 Author Share Posted September 30, 2006 I confronted this man and he didn't answer my question.Yup this man was trying to use me. My warning to people beware of the involuntary celibate board because most of the people have seriuos issue and are f$%k up. Link to post Share on other sites
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