ddh33 Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 Hehe I finally got my mack up tonight..I went to a Christian concert at a local church as a non-Christian with a friend (guy) who I think may be Christian. I'd never been there so he gave me a ride. There was this international girl (Hongkongese) who is real cute and has been here for 2 weeks. I'm Chinese and we all speak the same language. So got to know each other in the car, blah blah blah. She sat by my friend and I sat by him at the concert..thought about sitting by her but we didn't know each other well plus it'd kinda been obvious. The concert was mediocre, and my right foot started aching towards the end (happens lately if sitting or walking too long). Managed to sit through it. There were then refreshments..basically all college kids. I got some time with my friend and the girl when all others had left. I was like "what's your number" which was uh shall I say blunt..but I knew I wouldn't be able to pull this off if I thought too much later on. I was surprisingly talkative (yeah I tend to be that way when I'm eager to know someone and feel comfortable with the setting). I talked a little bit more to my friend than to the girl so it wouldn't seem so obvious..I'm paranoid about someone else (including the girl if it's not the right time) sensing I'm interested in someone. But it was more of a group convo, she did chime in from time to time. I asked her lots of questions too..but pretty normal stuff. She didn't ask me much..We got some good laughs..going pretty well I guess. After a long chat we jumped in the friend's car and went home..just said bye as she got out. The girl seems really easygoing and just right neither shy nor outgoing. She didn't show me more interest than others but I could tell she doesn't hate me either..getting along I guess. I'm giving it a shot man. How do I go about it? She lives in a dorm and I may have a same class with her (not sure). I plan on going back to this church thing next Friday with the said friend (potluck). This girl will likely be there too. I did hint at some possibility of going out. I asked her "Do you go out?" at some point (well in Chinese it's more like "do you go out and have fun" but not stressing at the going out part). She asked if I meant going outside and I said yes she said yeah just for shopping so far. I'm totally a mess with asking a girl out...I've been too rush and I've been too slow. That's hy I'm asking for advice. In case you're wondering, I'm pretty sure my friend isn't interested in her. He's more nerdy than me (actually I'm not, but look and maybe act like I am) and never showed interest in girls...I didn't see him act any differnt around her. Also he did the International Orientation as one of dozens of leaders which was probly where he met her. He was helping her out socially. Ok stop thinking too much (*analysis paralysis*) or I'll change my mind lol What do yall think? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 So, I think you got her phone number out of it? Call her up and ask her out to do something fun so you get to spend some time getting to know each other without other people around. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 Your full of it but in case this is real follow every word I write, first of all if you are going to college and want to get girls you cant focus on one you have to ask them all for there numbers cause I know there has to be alot of them catching your eye. Obviously you think you have a chance with this girl so what you have to do is just be a little less talkative act like you dont care and ask her out. Make your intentions clear that you want something romantic with out actualy saying it, you by like giving her a touch on the lower back or something what ever comes to mind you know what I'm talking about be touchy with her be flirting but very important stay calm and cool about things like if she says no dont show any emotion just try asking her out again some other time unless shes like I WILL NEVER GO OUT WITH YOU. And if you get her to go out with you try to get as much as you can right on that first date, take her to a party or something and do some shots with her it will come to you and oh yeah atleast try to get a kiss on the first date even if she doesnt let you it will show her that your confident or what ever ok go out there and get that Hongakonga girl Link to post Share on other sites
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