Keld Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 This girl and I are interns with the Forest Service as field technicians. We spend time together frequently throughout the week and she makes a lot of small talk. After 7 months of working together just casually, while we were heading back to the office she tells me that shes going to see a movie with her friends and gave a time and location of the movie and said "If I see you there we can throw popcorn at people", which I basically took as an invitation. Well I went to the movie at the time she said but she gave me the wrong time. Nothing was said ever since regarding that day. I know she has a boyfriend (whom she lives with), the last time she talked about him was 2 months ago, and I can't figure it out if its just harmless flirting, or if shes waiting for some approach on my part. Any thoughts on this situation are much appreciated. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 She's living with her boyfriend? Find someone else to wonder about. She's not waiting for an approach from you. Even if she were, why would you make one? You really want to get involved with a girl who has a boyfriend and would cheat? She'd cheat on you too, then. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 What casual flirting are you talking about? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Keld Posted September 27, 2006 Author Share Posted September 27, 2006 To clarify, I don't really have an interest in her. I was just more interested in general of your thoughts on what maybe her intention was by her approach. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted September 27, 2006 Share Posted September 27, 2006 I'm still not sure what casual flirting you're talking about. I don't think there is anything the least bit unusual about co-workers engaging in small talk or inviting one another along to events which include other people. It seems clear to me that she wasn't asking you out on a date. So in 7 months you've had some small talk & one invite to a movie which didn't materialise because she gave you the wrong info & here you are thinking she's flirting?? To clarify, I don't really have an interest in her. I was just more interested in general of your thoughts on what maybe her intention was by her approach. My thoughts, from what little you've described, are that she is just being friendly with a co-worker. Anyway, if you're not interested none of this matters one little bit, even if she was flirting. Link to post Share on other sites
nancyleeh Posted September 27, 2006 Share Posted September 27, 2006 From what you said it sounds like she was just mentioning that she and her friends were going to the movies and if you showed up that would be nice and that it was strickly a friendly jesture on her part to include you if you wanted to show up. She may have innocently told you the wrong time and when she didn't see you there, just thought you decided not to go. Only you can tell if you and she engage in harmless flirting or not but from what you said, it doesn't sound like she is waiting for some approach on your part. Keep it friendly and if she is not with her boyfriend anymore I'm sure she will let that be known to you, especially if she wants to get to know you on a more personal basis. nancyleeh Link to post Share on other sites
Author Keld Posted September 27, 2006 Author Share Posted September 27, 2006 Thanks everyone for their input. Today we talked some and she does say some things that could be interpreted as flirting but it depends on how one takes the comment. For instance today, another coworker just mentioned that I was like an ox just based on my work I do for the office, she cuts in and says that I'm more like a bunny, her rational was because she was trying to find an animal that is cuter that would perceive me better. It's just stuff like that, that has me wondering. I'm fine though whether or not anything materialized, just based on my morals I don't take any interest in her becuase she is in a relationship that I know of. Link to post Share on other sites
JCD Posted September 29, 2006 Share Posted September 29, 2006 Let her come to you and ask you for a date and then you know for sure what's going on with her. Until then don't waste time wondering. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 29, 2006 Share Posted September 29, 2006 I know she has a boyfriend (whom she lives with), the last time she talked about him was 2 months ago, and I can't figure it out if its just harmless flirting, or if shes waiting for some approach on my part. Any thoughts on this situation are much appreciated. her b/f is mistreating her or they got in a fight and she is using you to try to make him jelous. don't fall into the trap my friend. oh yeah, and try to focus your energies on women who are unattached. Link to post Share on other sites
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