turtle32 Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 Ok i ahve posted on here a few times about my situation and most have told me to do the NC and i have but seems for me if i am ever going to get any peace i need to send her an email , which is ent her a letter and poured my heart out to her for what did and thatw as i didnt spend enough time with her. I told her how much i cared for her and wanted her in my life, i sent with flowers i got a text back thanking me for the flowers she told my sister yesterday that she didnt call she texted me cause that is what i used to do to her so that kinda sounded like she is paying me back but anyway im tired of setting here wondering if she will come back and the no contact is hard, as you all well know but i just want to say hey you knwo i care about you but im not going to set and wait i would just like to know how you feel since she has never told me to this day. I just want her to say hey i am done then i will move on but this cat and mouse game is hard and silly. I had a girl tell me lastnight that she dumped her boyfreind yesterday for the very same reason mine did me and she told me that the only way she would take him back is if he chased her or showed he cared about her so now how is NC going to do that i ask her if he did no contact what would she do or think and she said she would forget him and feel he dont care. So she can feel i am weak but im just going to say grow up and be a woman and tell me it is over and i will walk away and i can clsoe the book, or say hey i would like to work things out this is driving me crazy. I know i will get the dont do it but , i talk to woman here and ask them what i should and all tell me to go after her show her you care and i get on here and everyone sayes no contact. Im just tired of holding on hoping she will call or text or what ever if she told me straight out she was done ok fine but she gives these mixed feelings to freinds and family so i am on the verge of sending an email to her or calling her and then it is in her hands and if she comes back fine if not then that is fine also. Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Doe Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 Why are you letting her call all the shots here? She's playing games with you! You don't have to have "closure" for there to be healing. Closure is overrated. You need to make a decision for yourself concerning what you want out of life and relationships. She sounds very catty to me. If you're tired of the nonsense then end it in your heart and mind. There doesn't have to be any emails, texts, etc. to accomplish this. Just make your decision and then abide by it. Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 I read your emails and I sort of understand sort of dont. It would be a gift to the rest of us if you spaced your postings out properly Look theres no magic way to win her back. Sometimes you have to show you care ie make effort sometimes you just do nothing. You did something so now do nothing. Where do you think she is going? Another thing.. Its always better to give gifts when things are good not bad. Just leave it alone and see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Author turtle32 Posted September 27, 2006 Author Share Posted September 27, 2006 I have come to my senses i guess i had one of those moments, lol i am just going to drop off the radar i have told her how i feel and she knows i care and if that isnt enough for her to want me then she dont want me im not begging i am done but i did admit it was me but people make mistakes and if she cant forgive me and like me then someone else will. Thanks for your encouragment. Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted September 27, 2006 Share Posted September 27, 2006 I think I know the problem now If your letter to her was like what you psot one here... well? How could she even get through it? Bugger off for now and pratice writing things that are nicely "spaced out" and broken up into paragraphs. Link to post Share on other sites
Dinnj1 Posted September 27, 2006 Share Posted September 27, 2006 I know i will get the dont do it but , i talk to woman here and ask them what i should and all tell me to go after her show her you care First mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 He will be "ok". He might even get back with her, it depends on leaving her alone and letting her notice his absence. If really wants contact wit her his best bet is to accidently run into her somewhere, but not now maybe in 2 or 3 weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author turtle32 Posted September 28, 2006 Author Share Posted September 28, 2006 It has been since sept 14th since i ahve had any contact my friend told me yesterday that last week she called and she asked what i had been doing? I think she told her that she was confused and needed time so im not sure what all that means but im just going to let go and let God have it i cnat control it, so if it is meant to be it will be but i do know i have some ladies taht are interested in me and im not going to wait much longer. Link to post Share on other sites
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