la_luna Posted September 27, 2006 Share Posted September 27, 2006 Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 months, we're very close and i'm generally very happy and secure with him. The problem is, he occasionally has bouts of seriously 'abnormal' behaviour, and goes into hysterical and sometimes violent rants about his hatred for all people and women especially. he has a long history of this as well as alcoholism, but hasnt really sought help. i would go so far as to say he acts schizophrenic or at the least bipolar, my friends and family are in agreement, and he has even suggested it when he's 'normal'. After a recent 'episode' i told him i could take no more, but gave him another chance when he offered to undergo psychotherapy. However, when his friend visited us over the weekend we went out for the day. He was affectionate all morning until very suddenly and with no explanation he seemed to 'snap'. He took us to the pub and proceeded to humiliate me at every possible opportunity - constantly referring to me as a "cheap, whore" and chatting up the barmaid. It became obvious to me and his friend he had a serious issue, but his only reason was "its a laugh". His prejudice ranting resulted in the bar staff making 'crazy' gestures and many horrified looks...as if he'd lost all reasoning, he wasnt even drunk at first. By the end of the night his despicable behaviour towards me became too much and i told him i had to break up with him, as ive never been treated with so little respect. He has since sent me several messages and apologies for his 'craziness'. but it seems hes trying to use his mental illness as an excuse for hurting me. Although i am happy to stand by him while he seeks help for his problems, it seems to be costing my self respect at times like this. i want to respond to his latest message and 'forgive him' as hes asked somewhat feebly, but i dont want this to happen again. i dont know what i should do. i want badly to be with him but feel like its costing mine and his respect for me. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted September 27, 2006 Share Posted September 27, 2006 Until he speaks to a professional no one is going to know if he is just taking the piss. I think you should take a long step back from this guy. He needs to seek help & he needs to do so, not because of you or for you, but for himself & his own safety & sanity. 6 months is not a huge investment of time & you honestly don't have an obligation to "stand by him" through thick or thin. IMO you should end this relationship now. Someone is going to end up hurt & I don't mean just emotionally. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted September 27, 2006 Share Posted September 27, 2006 Ditto!...... Link to post Share on other sites
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