yesmaybe Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 I have never been married, much less divorced. But from what I hear, it is a very difficult time, even when you are the one who wants the divorce. Would anyone mind sharing their story? Link to post Share on other sites
lasan Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 I have never been married, much less divorced. But from what I hear, it is a very difficult time, even when you are the one who wants the divorce. Would anyone mind sharing their story? When I got divorced, I had only been married 4 years. He initiated it. I had no idea he was leaving me for another woman. Right before we got divorced, He did try to come back. By that point I was convinced that a reconcilation would not be in our best interests, and I rejected it. It was hard. Even the day after we got divorced when I found out he had a 2 year old child with another woman. (little math there, we had been married 4 years but he had a 2 year old hmmm) I was numb. It did not hit me til some months later the depths of everything wrong. The divorce itself was fairly simple. We were young. We had no assets, No children, nothing at all to fight over. The mental aftermath however was much worse. Link to post Share on other sites
will2power Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 We mutually agreed that we should go our separate ways this time. I left him the first time. Either way, its hard. Actually, hard is the understatement of the year. Even though my sMM is by my side to support me, it still feels like I'm all alone and no one really understands what I feel. I feel sad that its over and my friends are wondering why that would be since I have my sMM in my life again. My friends don't understand why I mourn the loss of the R. So its really lonely sometimes Link to post Share on other sites
willoweeish Posted September 29, 2006 Share Posted September 29, 2006 During my marriage I felt as though I was unimportant and unloved, his reaction to my wanting a divorce came as a shock to me. As time progressed I have come to the realization that the break down of our marriage was as much my fault as it was his because I didn't make him understand when I tried to talk to him and tell him how I was feeling. Then when I was at the point of no return, as I call it, it was to late, any feelings I might have had left for him were gone. All I had was anger and resentment. The thing that I found the hardest was to see that I was causing him pain. Many times, I wanted to throw in the towel and be his wife again, but I knew that the issues we had as a couple went on for far to long for either of us to be able to move past for more than a short time. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure he had just as many complaints about me as I did him, I'm just saying our inability to communicate was the root of the problem. Link to post Share on other sites
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