Can she fall in love with me again

[SickAndTiredOfIt]

I am looking for help to win my ex back. I know I cant win her back, but how to rekindle her love. How to attract the opposite sex.

My ex (She is 34 and I am 31) of 8 years left me 2 months ago and moved out 6 weeks ago. We have 4 year old son. This is our 3rd seperation, the last 2 supposively was about my immaturity and partying. I had a big problem with drinking and smoking weed. I am now clean and sober for 17 months. I also quit smoking cigarettes 2 years ago. So this time is about how she is not happy and how controllig I am.

We tried to be nice for a few weeks but pressure of Child Support made it a little worse. 3 weeks ago, she told me to move on, dont ask about her life, do send cards, nothing. Move on, there is no hope. OK, that killed me. Then a week later, she calls me and is a little nicer. I let her call me. She calls often, most of the time is to speak to son or ask about him. Last week she wanted me to go shopping with her to help pick out a digital camera for her, which she would buy. On Sunday she came by to pick up our son, and asked if I wanted to go to dinner later and maybe shopping now. We did, and hung out for 8 hours. We laughed and talked a lot. I never pushed about us, just tried to have fun and be positive. She told me a lot about what she has been doing, and even let me ask about her life, without getting defensive. She made sure and let me know how happy she is with her new life. She said she has to go clubbing once a week or she is miserable. One major reason she left, is because I gave her such a hard time about going out dancing with her girlfriends. Last night she called me at 12:30 AM (knowing that my son and I were sleeping) and told me how much fun she had at the Mariah Carey concert. We talked about it for 10 minutes. I arranged to get 4 tickets for her and girlfriends a few months ago. She was so happy I did this for her. She told me all about it, she was still on the high from having fun.

On Sunday we were taking about one her best friends, who is a single mother and doesnt do much with her son. No sports, no shows like Disney on ice or anything. She says its hard for her to find this information out, because she has no computer. What ever. The ex then said HOW LUCKY SHE IS to have me, to do all of this. How I always have done a good job about family activites and activites for son.

Any ways, I think I can get her back, maybe it will take months. Maybe I wont.

I am looking for any advice and some books to read. I was looking for suggestions on how to rekindle our love. How to be more attractive to her, how to make a women happy, anything like that. I am going on Vacation with my parents and son on Saturday and have a lot of time to read. 9 hours to Carlsbad from Sacramento.