tinkerbell xx Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I know this guy that really likes me, even though he never got the courage to tell me or look me in the eye. But why does he avoid me most of the time????
tearful_soul22 Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 He must be shy, nervous, or lacks the self-confidence to start conversations with you. Give him time maybe he'll warm up to you. Take care and good luck!
arniebuteft Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Let me guess... you're both in high school? How do you know he really likes you in that way? He could just consider you a good friend. Maybe you intimidate him, he could be really shy, you might be popular and attractive, etc... You could always make the first move, but I dunno if I'd recommend that.
Yamaha Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I know this guy that really likes me, even though he never got the courage to tell me or look me in the eye. But why does he avoid me most of the time???? He's nervous around you and he probably feels you would reject him so he keeps his distance. Guys like this tend to be friends with women because they don't have the courage to tell them how they feel or what they want. He's probably hoping you will take the lead and ask him out but most women don't do that with a non-confident guy. They feel if he doesn't have enough courage to ask then he's not being the man they want him to be. The ball is in your court. Why don't you break the ice and let him out of his misery? Probably because you don't see him that way but you find it cute that he likes you that much. What are YOU going to do about his crush?
Jizzosh Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 That's pretty much what I'm like. I hate it, it's something I'm working very hard at to fix. I don't look at them though simply because I've never talked to them, so I don't know them. Once I get to know a girl I'm all good with her, I can do anything with her. What it's like for me is I'm content with the fact that the girl I like is staring at me, cause I know she's done it so much. I know I've gotta change it and actually approach her cause she'll either get a boyfriend or move on, and it's eating me up that I haven't been able to do anything about it.
Guest Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 He's nervous around you and he probably feels you would reject him so he keeps his distance. Guys like this tend to be friends with women because they don't have the courage to tell them how they feel or what they want. He's probably hoping you will take the lead and ask him out but most women don't do that with a non-confident guy. They feel if he doesn't have enough courage to ask then he's not being the man they want him to be. The ball is in your court. Why don't you break the ice and let him out of his misery? Probably because you don't see him that way but you find it cute that he likes you that much. What are YOU going to do about his crush? You are 100% right about how i feel.... I have given my guy (jimmy) so many hints... and created some opportunities for him to ask me out.... but he 's so slow....!!!!!! at lunch time he eat on his own now!! we use to eat together with six other guys... and now just me and these guys.... i even left those guys on my lunch to see him... i went to his space and said i missed him being there, i don't get to see him anymore and please come and eat with us... he had his head down didn't look at me and quickly picked up his stuff and said,"i am sorry! i'm coming now!" he said it with a sweet smile and his face was red. I did it for three days... and now he's still eat on his own!!!! even the other six guys knew i was making an effort can he not tell... i don't want to make it like i need to beg him? It's not fair!!!! if he likes me he should make an effort too! if a guy won't even make an effort to get what he wants he don't deserved to have it.... it's getting to a point that i'm thinking of giving up and just move on, grrrrrrr.... but that's love though can't control myself. is it me not doing this right..? GRRRRR tinkerbell xx
tinkerbell xx Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 That's pretty much what I'm like. I hate it, it's something I'm working very hard at to fix. I don't look at them though simply because I've never talked to them, so I don't know them. Once I get to know a girl I'm all good with her, I can do anything with her. What it's like for me is I'm content with the fact that the girl I like is staring at me, cause I know she's done it so much. I know I've gotta change it and actually approach her cause she'll either get a boyfriend or move on, and it's eating me up that I haven't been able to do anything about it. Go for it if you find a girl you like... and you are right about "she'll either get a boyfriend or move on" just think the worst thing you'll get it's her saying "can we just be friends" but you might hit the jackpot.
Yamaha Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 You are 100% right about how i feel.... I have given my guy (jimmy) so many hints... and created some opportunities for him to ask me out.... but he 's so slow....!!!!!! at lunch time he eat on his own now!! we use to eat together with six other guys... and now just me and these guys.... i even left those guys on my lunch to see him... i went to his space and said i missed him being there, i don't get to see him anymore and please come and eat with us... he had his head down didn't look at me and quickly picked up his stuff and said,"i am sorry! I'm coming now!" he said it with a sweet smile and his face was red. I did it for three days... and now he's still eat on his own!!!! even the other six guys knew i was making an effort can he not tell... i don't want to make it like i need to beg him? It's not fair!!!! if he likes me he should make an effort too! if a guy won't even make an effort to get what he wants he don't deserved to have it.... it's getting to a point that I'm thinking of giving up and just move on, grrrrrrr.... but that's love though can't control myself. is it me not doing this right..? GRRRRR tinkerbell xx I think you are doing more than most women who want to convey interest. Maybe if you eat an ice cream cone very seductively while looking right at him he might get the hint. Or maybe not.
norajane Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Well, why not put him out of his misery? If you like him, why don't YOU ask HIM out on a date instead of waiting for him to take a hint. He might not realize you like him THAT WAY, and maybe thinks you just like him as a friend. Inviting him to eat lunch with you and SIX other guys isn't exactly a declaration of interest. You seem pretty popular if you're surrounded by all those guys - he might have no idea what you think of him. Or maybe he thinks you're teasing all of them. You'll never know unless you try.
tinkerbell xx Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Well, why not put him out of his misery? If you like him, why don't YOU ask HIM out on a date instead of waiting for him to take a hint. He might not realize you like him THAT WAY, and maybe thinks you just like him as a friend. Inviting him to eat lunch with you and SIX other guys isn't exactly a declaration of interest. You seem pretty popular if you're surrounded by all those guys - he might have no idea what you think of him. Or maybe he thinks you're teasing all of them. You'll never know unless you try. Never have asked a guy out before...!! Haven’t got a clue... can’t figure him out dose he like me or not. specially I have see him turn one of the girl down last year, she text him on valentines day to let him know how she felt about him but he text her back and said he doesn’t want a long term relationship at the moment. I can see that’s going to happen to me too!!!! I know that before she popped the question, she text him all the time and he return her text too. That girl has left now, so I mention to him in a joking way that this girl used to tell me each time she text him and each time when he replies she will tell me too. He quickly replies that she was just a little girl he text her back like you text a little girl, there was nothing to it. Well, you see he’s got my number but he doesn’t even text me at all! I am not even worth a text….
quietintrovertgirl Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 I know how you feel.There is a male co-worker who won't give me eye contact, and everytime i come around him this man tries to avoid me.I also notice everytime i went to the bathroomThis guy would watch me.I'm getting ready to introduce myself and give him my number because this guy is shy.
Guest Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 I know how you feel.There is a male co-worker who won't give me eye contact, and everytime i come around him this man tries to avoid me.I also notice everytime i went to the bathroomThis guy would watch me.I'm getting ready to introduce myself and give him my number because this guy is shy. It nice to know someone is going through the same thing, please let me know how you've done though so i could learn something from you tinkerbell xx
norajane Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Never have asked a guy out before...!! Haven’t got a clue... can’t figure him out dose he like me or not. specially I have see him turn one of the girl down last year, she text him on valentines day to let him know how she felt about him but he text her back and said he doesn’t want a long term relationship at the moment. I can see that’s going to happen to me too!!!! I know that before she popped the question, she text him all the time and he return her text too. That girl has left now, so I mention to him in a joking way that this girl used to tell me each time she text him and each time when he replies she will tell me too. He quickly replies that she was just a little girl he text her back like you text a little girl, there was nothing to it. Well, you see he’s got my number but he doesn’t even text me at all! I am not even worth a text…. Maybe the next time he goes to eat lunch by himself, you could join him so it's just the two of you, and get to know him one on one. Texting is stupid, and he seems to thinks so, too. You should be glad he's not texting you since he seems to think it's a "little girl" thing to do.
Guest Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Maybe the next time he goes to eat lunch by himself, you could join him so it's just the two of you, and get to know him one on one. Texting is stupid, and he seems to thinks so, too. You should be glad he's not texting you since he seems to think it's a "little girl" thing to do. never thought of it that way... thanks it makes me feel better. well i'll go and eat with him tomorrow and see how it goes... well if i've got the guts...
honestly Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 This guy has a girlfriend. Either that or he is not interested. I see no other reason why he wouldnt continue to sit with you at least out of habit being that he used to sit with all of you before, and when he stopped you kept inviting him. Maybe he doesnt want to start anything up and you keep pushing him. If he wanted to, he would have already. Especially since he has your number as well. He could have texted you simple crap like hey, are you going to lunch now, or do you want to sit with me at lunch? As far as shyness is concerned, how old is he?
tinkerbell xx Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 This guy has a girlfriend. Either that or he is not interested. He’s 24, no girlfriend and I’m 22! I thought he was running away from me and didn't like me too... so I have left him alone before. but when I don't say anything to him he will come and do these little things to get my attention... e.g. punch me in the arm in a playful way, pull my hair lightly and pretend it wasn't him... caught him looking at me so many times.. Often he'll call out my name for no reason??? Couple of days ago he did it again and I answer "what?" He smiled and replied "Janice you are pain in the neck!" smiled, head down and walked away???!! I'm his pain in the neck already and i don't even get to see/talk to him that often????!!!!!!! <FONT COLOR="pink"><FONT SIZE=”BOLD”>AAARRRGGG! that’s why I’m so lost with him?!! DOES HE LIKE ME OR NOT…!!!! ARRRGGGG</FONT></font> He never complement me, the only nice thing he’s ever said to me was “Janice you are a nice lady” but that was when I first started talking to him (6 months ago). Today I was going to eat with him alone but what you’ve said there really puts me off that idea…. Tinkerbell xx
tinkerbell xx Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 I think you are doing more than most women who want to convey interest. Maybe if you eat an ice cream cone very seductively while looking right at him he might get the hint. Or maybe not. lol... even if i did that i don't think he's that clever to get it!! I know i'll go up to him and give him a snog.... well....? he'll think it's some kind of joke or something!!!!! he is so stupid!!!! but i like him that way tinkerbell xx ps. hey don't you laugh @ my man....lolol
Guest Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 never thought of it that way... thanks it makes me feel better. well i'll go and eat with him tomorrow and see how it goes... well if i've got the guts... YES!!!! GO EAT WITH HIM. DUHH
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