Does he still want his ex wife?

[hurting1712]

Ok for starters I am 23 and he is 34...but the age thing has never really been an issue.

 

We have been together for a year and at first we were in a long distance relationship. He has two kids and was married for 15 years.

I have always had jealousy issues but with him its worse because he has a problem showing emotion, which I have tried my best to deal with.

We had a very strained relationship because he refused to really do anything to show me he cared, finally he decided to move here so we could be together, which really did help me to see. However, I can't help shake the feeling that he still loves his ex wife. Although they have been seperated for two years, and she has remarried I just feel like he thinks I am just something to pass his time. He talks about her a lot, he says its because they spent most of there lives together and its hard to remember times when they werent together. I bring her up a lot and I know I shouldn't but I can't bear to think that he thinks of her still. I know they will always have a relationship together because of the kids but I want to know his heart belongs to me now. I want to know that he doesn't see me and wish it was her. They split up because she cheated and now married one of his close friends, and he also said because they lost feelings for each other. Well now, we were talking and he said that she lost feelings for him that he hadn't really lost them for her. He said that he has gotten over that now.....but I am not sure if he has or maybe I am just insecure I guess, that is why I came here? To maybe ease my mind in a way so we wont argue about this anymore.....It just doesn't help when he doesn't show emotion, and it has been a week now since we have had sex........I guess I am not used to that either....My mind is lost in a thousand thoughts of him doing me wrong that maybe I am pushing this thought in my head for nothing...What do you think?

[lawyer83]

Your feelings are valid. No matter what don't let anyone tell you that they don't count. I can sympathize with how you feel because I'm dealing with an ex here myself. If you feel like you're just a rebound, then maybe you should talk about that with him. It's not going to hurt him to calm your fears. And, if he doesn't have time for it because he's too wrapped up in his own drama, well, that will tell you everything you need to know about it. If you believe that you're being too insecure then that's something you will have to address on your own because if you don't it could ruin the relationship. Whatever happens I wish you lots of luck. Being in love and not being afforded the luxury of enjoying it is a sad thing indeed.