Never been in this position before....

[rickyphoenix]

Okay, here's my story. There's this woman named Candace in my life right now. We started dating in March of this year and it was unbelievable. It just seemed like we were so right for each other. She even had thoughts of marrying me. Then just before the summer started I told some stupid lies and made some mistakes that led to a bad break-up. She dated someone else over the summer while I was miserable. Then towards the end of August she broke that relationship off but days before she made that decision she called me out of the blue. She apologized for the horrible things she said and did to me and she told me that she never stopped loving me. Sometime after that she met another guy named Russ who she's interested in and I mean really interested in. Despite that we've flirted and we've even told each other we loved each other since then. We've even talked about living together at the beginning of the year since we both need roommates for an apartment.

Bottom line: I feel like I'm competing for someone who's one state away and I still feel like I could lose another chance to be with her. I'm only 25 and I've never felt so strongly about any other woman in my life. I don't want to come off too strong but I don't want to back so far away that the other guy has a clear path. I've never had an ex that back, much less said they never stopped loving me. So what do I do?

[michelleryan]

Like you said, try not to come off too strong, but still show her the reasons why you are absolutely the best choice. Send her flowers. It sounds like she is worth it to you.

[gfto]

She sounds like a serial dater. She isn't very interested in you, Russ, or any other guy she runs around with. Cut off contact with her and find a girl who really likes you.