Author Pye Posted October 15, 2006 Author Share Posted October 15, 2006 Your mind and your heart are telling you two different things. Your intentions isn't just friendship. You have feelings for this woman and honestly, it's quite inappropriate to ask her out, outside of work. You know she's got a fiance, so techincally, she's hands off. Don't pretend that it isn't a date - you can label it anything you want - It's still a date, with feelings involved. I really don't know about that. Yes, I would really like there to be more, but when I talk to her at work I just enjoy her company. I'm not thinking about 'jumping' her or "Wow...you're so amazing!" or anything like that. So why couldn't that happen outside of work? Just cos I'm attracted to a woman it means I can't be their friend? Are engaged ladies not allowed male friends? If I go out with someone as a friend I'm not going to try anything on them or anything like that! I'm not that kind of guy. To the original poster: She's still a free woman. If you think you've got a future with her, go for it while you still can. You owe her boyfriend/fiance nothing. Once she gets married though, you should back off. I agree with everything you've just said I never really thought about when/if she gets married though. I suppose I would have to back off then, plus if she does get to that stage then clearly nothing is going to happen between us anyway. Yet, she hasn't mentioned A WORD to her fiance that she's not happy or having second thoughts about calling off the engagement. TO me, that is just dishonest - She's leading her fiance on. If you think that THAT is OK to do, well, so be it. Now we don't know that, do we? As I said before, she hardly ever mentions him, and when she doesn't it's nothing to do with the whole engagement thing. It's just things like "he's very disorganized". I/we have no idea if she's talked to him about having second thoughts etc, that is if she is having second thoughts at all! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 15, 2006 Share Posted October 15, 2006 Sorry if I assumed too much...I'm not going to reply on your thread anymore as it seems I'm coming off too judgemental and my thoughts aren't coming across as I'm intending them to. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pye Posted October 15, 2006 Author Share Posted October 15, 2006 Okie dokie. Your time/thoughts were still appreciated even if I don't quite agree Link to post Share on other sites
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