Guest Posted October 2, 2006 Share Posted October 2, 2006 hi, I was wondering do some girls give out their phone numbers to guys who ask for it even if their not interested? The reason I'm asking is b/c when I was working; I work at a movie theatre and I'm 17, I got a girls phone number. But after I got it she kinda rushed off, I just barely got her name before she rushed back to the theatre after she bought something and I was at the register... I dunno but it seemed kinda strange to me that she would give me her number and say goodbye and not give me her name, or am I just being insecure? Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 I was wondering do some girls give out their phone numbers to guys who ask for it even if their not interested? Yes, they certainly do. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 They do, so you should get used to it since it won't change anytime soon. Expect about 50% of them to fall through. Link to post Share on other sites
quietintrovertgirl Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 Hey guest i'm getting ready to give a male co-worker my number.I'm going to go up to him,introduce myself,give him my number and leave.Me and your phone numver lady have soemthing in common:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
clapat Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 yea i agree that girls do give out their numbers to guys even when their not interested, but then how do you know if a girl is being serious? it would kinda suck to be it guest's position, ask her out then a month into the relatioship find out she never liked you in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 yea i agree that girls do give out their numbers to guys even when their not interested, but then how do you know if a girl is being serious? it would kinda suck to be it guest's position, ask her out then a month into the relatioship find out she never liked you in the first place. Well if she's not interested then you're never going to get a month into the relationship. Your first sign of her disinterest will be when she fails to return your initial call. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 I was wondering do some girls give out their phone numbers to guys who ask for it even if their not interested? my experience is that about 50% of the time a dude gets a number she's probably not intersted but just being "nice". the dude has to call to find out. Link to post Share on other sites
kjl933 Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 I was just reading about a company that offers free phone numbers for this purpose. WHen you call, it is a recording that says, "well, this is probably not the person you were looking for but it is not a wrong number. Apparently she is not that into you and rather than giving you her number, she gave you this one so we could let you know for her." Or somethgin like that. But I cannot find the link Link to post Share on other sites
bella_girl Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 No - I'd never do that. I'd just make excuses not to give them my phone number... like "erm um.. yeah I gotta go." Perhaps she ran away cos she was embarassed, shy, about to miss the movie, thought her friends would be staring at her and tease her when she came back. Who knows. You got the number so just call it already. Link to post Share on other sites
Forever Searching Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 The rejection hot line 410-347-1488 Link to post Share on other sites
funkify Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 I always wondered why men don't return calls until I found myself in a position where I actually didn't want to go out with a particular guy after the initial chat. I started chatting to this very good-looking guy but realised about 5mins after we started talking how different we were and he didn't appeal to me much anymore. He asked for my number and I felt bad so I did give it to him. He did call me, I just didn't answer. So I think it is possible that she was just being polite because her initial interest had subsided a bit. That doesn't mean to say this is the answer to your situation though, good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
climbergirl Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 To me, giving a guy my # would always mean that I want him to call me. It's personal (my phone #) and to be inferred as a reciprocated interest. If i'm not interested or on the fence, I'll insist on taking his number rather than give him mine. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueEyedGirl Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 I do it a lot. Or more like I used to do it when I was younger. I classify guys that ask for my number into three categories: 1) No chance in hell, wouldn't go out with you if you are the last person on earth - give them fake number, just any number that comes to mind so that I can get rid of them and run away. This is usually used on sleazy guys I meet while clubbing or random weirdos that come up to me on the street or train stations. 2) Meh, feel nothing for you really but you don't seem like a total psycho, so I might be bored later on and decide to go out with you - give them my real number and usually never go out with them. 3) Wow, OMG! I want you bad (less than 1% of the guys that ask for my number) - give them my number then keep staring at the phone willing it to ring for days on end. They usually never call. No wonder I'm single Link to post Share on other sites
grateful Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 1) No chance in hell, wouldn't go out with you if you are the last person on earth - give them fake number, just any number that comes to mind so that I can get rid of them and run away. This is usually used on sleazy guys I meet while clubbing or random weirdos that come up to me on the street or train stations. I'm not picking on you because I know tons of women do this..... I'm wondering why....? I mean, why not just say "no" or "I'm not interested" (which is what I always did when I was single, now I point at my ring and say "I'm engaged"... duh, why didn't they look?) Why the fake numbers or the aforementioned hot line? Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 I have to admit that when I was younger I did the fake number thing quite often. I didn't have the heart to turn someone down but didn't want to be bothered with the calls and having to make excuses either. That was all before caller ID. I'm ashamed of it and if I were single now I wouldn't do it but I did used to do that. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueEyedGirl Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 Well with me I tend to prefer to avoid conflict so it's just easier to give out fake number so the guy would go away. On the rare occassion that I have tried to be honest, I would say "I just don't think it would work out" the guy would persist with "One date is all I'm asking for" then I would go on to say "I'm not looking for a relationship right now" he would reply with "Let's just go out as friends.." What do you say to that? You are a weirdo, I don't want anything to do with you just go away. I have also tried "I have a boyfriend" and the guy came up with "So bring him along, lets all go out.." You just can't win. I'm not saying all guys are that thick, but I would rather not risk it. Keep in my mind though that these are guys I don't know (don't work with, am not friends with) they are just random guys that approach me in clubs, bars or public places. Also I don't have the heart to say "I'm not interested in you" when a guy gathered up the courage to approach me. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 Yes, Blue. That was my SAME experience too. They'd persist if you ever did say no to the phone number request. I never felt like being bothered with all of that. It was just easier to give the fake number. Be prepared to be bashed for this though. But hey, I know it's wrong...I just had no spine. Funny though but when I met my husband I wouldn't give him my number either. I told him I just didn't want to date and he gave me that same "go out as friends" line. He was the first man I ever REALLY believed though. So he gave me HIS number and I called him a week later. We went out. That was almost exactly 12 years ago now. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueEyedGirl Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 Touche, I'm curious, when you met your husband and didn't give him your number, was it because you really didn't feel like you wanted to date anyone or did you just not find him that attractive and the feelings grew later on? I'm just worried sometimes that I'm not giving enough guys a chance because that initial attraction is not there. But then again I don't want to "settle". Ugh, so sick of being single. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 Touche, I'm curious, when you met your husband and didn't give him your number, was it because you really didn't feel like you wanted to date anyone or did you just not find him that attractive and the feelings grew later on? I'm just worried sometimes that I'm not giving enough guys a chance because that initial attraction is not there. But then again I don't want to "settle". Ugh, so sick of being single. That's a good question. It was really a little of both. I wasn't ready to date having just left my ex-husband only 3 days before but also although, I found my husband (and still do) very attractive..I mean physically he's exactly my type, my initial impression of him was that he was just a little too "square." I'm using a kind of old-fashioned word there..can't think of another word. I thought he wouldn't be fun. He seemed a little stiff and maybe not my type personality-wise. I've always gone for guys that were a little "off" as far as being a little zany/funny/witty. He didn't seem to be my type that way. But as I got to know him, and I'm SO glad I gave him a chance...gave US a chance...I discovered that my initial impression was wrong. He has a great sense of humor and the best morals and values..very smart too. It's just initially he was nervous and I didn't see any of that. He told me he's never been good at approaching women and is not initially himself. But he seemed so genuine to me that I just had to take a chance and see. And for ONCE I was RIGHT! Yay for me! Hope that answers your question. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 I mean, why not just say "no" or "I'm not interested" (which is what I always did when I was single, now I point at my ring and say "I'm engaged"... duh, why didn't they look?) Why the fake numbers or the aforementioned hot line? because women love to delude themselves into thinking they are being nice and not hurting some poor dude's feelings. the sad reality is that an up front rejection is much less painful to the dude in the long-term than her making it look like she's interested and stringing it out and him getting rejected down the road.... and women think they are the fairer sex. all they really care about are their own feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 Touche and BlueEyedGirl - You girls are good examples of one of the reasons guys are so persistent: because girls are so quick to brush a good guy off before giving him a chance. Hence, why BEG is still single. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueEyedGirl Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 To me this an equivialent of a guy taking girls number and never calling. I mean he goes up to a girl and asks her number (meaning he initiates the whole thing) and then just never calls while the poor girl waits by the phone for days or sometimes weeks. Technically if he has lost interest/met someone else/was drunk he should call and explain himself rather then stringing the girl along by letting her wait. When guys start doing that, girls will stop giving out fake numbers. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 Hi, I dunno but it seemed kinda strange to me that she would give me her number and say goodbye and not give me her name, or am I just being insecure? No, you are not being insecure. I'd say you are doing a great job. You got a what's-her-name's number and that's a big deal. Someone that came to buy some stuff. In my case, I don't give my number to a guy if I'm not interested. Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 To me this an equivialent of a guy taking girls number and never calling. I mean he goes up to a girl and asks her number (meaning he initiates the whole thing) and then just never calls while the poor girl waits by the phone for days or sometimes weeks. Technically if he has lost interest/met someone else/was drunk he should call and explain himself rather then stringing the girl along by letting her wait. When guys start doing that, girls will stop giving out fake numbers. TOUCHE'!!!!!!! EXACTLY! And Tan, don't use ME as an example... I DID give my guy a chance! Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 When guys start doing that, girls will stop giving out fake numbers. That's mature. You could just as easily say: when girls stop giving out fake numbers, guys will start doing that. It's not a matter of quid pro quo, it's about maturity and having a spine. Link to post Share on other sites
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