grateful Posted October 6, 2006 Share Posted October 6, 2006 Hey, Just to give you all an update; I finally got the nerve to call her up and the number she gave me was fake. I kinda wish she would've let me know she didn't want to give me her number...but anyways... just thought i'd give you guys a heads up. Thanks for your advice everyone I'm sorry to hear that. I also wish she'd just been honest with you. I will never understand why some women think this is 'letting him down easy.' It really is just rude and immature. Link to post Share on other sites
Almost Posted October 6, 2006 Share Posted October 6, 2006 I'm sorry to hear that. I also wish she'd just been honest with you. I will never understand why some women think this is 'letting him down easy.' It really is just rude and immature. Giving out a fake number isn't letting someone down easy, it's letting them down hard in an insulting, sarcastic way. It sounds like in this case the guy and the girl are in high school, and judging from the original description of the situation, the girl was just acting immature and maybe somewhat mean. But before you ask a girl for her number, you should strike up a conversation with her and get to know her first, rather than just walk up to some random girl and ask her for her number without even knowing her name or anything about her, and with her not knowing your name or anything about you. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted October 6, 2006 Share Posted October 6, 2006 Man, I met a new girl on Saturday. We ended up hanging out and making out at the bar for a couple hours. I left with her and spent the night (but no sex). I got her number, told her I'd call her, she said she wanted me to. Then I called her Tuesday, got her voicemail, and never heard back. I even called a second time last night out of drunken impatience and still no answer. So to the OP, it happens to the best of us, bro. Link to post Share on other sites
Almost Posted October 6, 2006 Share Posted October 6, 2006 Man, I met a new girl on Saturday. We ended up hanging out and making out at the bar for a couple hours. I left with her and spent the night (but no sex). I got her number, told her I'd call her, she said she wanted me to. Then I called her Tuesday, got her voicemail, and never heard back. I even called a second time last night out of drunken impatience and still no answer. So to the OP, it happens to the best of us, bro. Yeah that's happened to me like 3-4 times or more. A couple times it was with a girl I met though a common woman friend we both had. So I was able to talk about what happend with the woman friend we both had in common, who heard both sides of the story. In both cases what happened was the girl I hooked up with was embarrassed and basically thought of it as if we had had a one night stand, even though we didn't have sex, just made out. She was embarrassed and thought I would never really respect her or would just think she was easy. I tried to tell my friend that no that's not the case, I really like her and we were both just drunk and having a good time, and since we really hit it off it just happened. But no matter how much reassuring I told the common friend, the girl couldn't get over it and never called me back. She was just too embarrassed and thought we had ruined any potential relationship because we had gotten drunk and made out the first night we met. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted October 6, 2006 Share Posted October 6, 2006 Yeah that's happened to me like 3-4 times or more. A couple times it was with a girl I met though a common woman friend we both had. So I was able to talk about what happend with the woman friend we both had in common, who heard both sides of the story. In both cases what happened was the girl I hooked up with was embarrassed and basically thought of it as if we had had a one night stand, even though we didn't have sex, just made out. She was embarrassed and thought I would never really respect her or would just think she was easy. I tried to tell my friend that no that's not the case, I really like her and we were both just drunk and having a good time, and since we really hit it off it just happened. But no matter how much reassuring I told the common friend, the girl couldn't get over it and never called me back. She was just too embarrassed and thought we had ruined any potential relationship because we had gotten drunk and made out the first night we met. Yeah, that thought crossed my mind and I'm sure that's the case. We hit it off really well like right away. Chicks, man.. They go on and on about how they want chemistry with a guy and then when they find it, they get embarrassed and never talk to the guy again. And then they wonder why they're single. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 I'm not picking on you because I know tons of women do this..... I'm wondering why....? I mean, why not just say "no" or "I'm not interested" (which is what I always did when I was single, now I point at my ring and say "I'm engaged"... duh, why didn't they look?) Why the fake numbers or the aforementioned hot line? it is because I am a person who hates to hurt feelings or make someone feel like they are not worthy of a phone number. first of all that when you say no I am not intrested they get angrey or have hurt feelings. I said some do but I am one of those people that fall into the catagory of not hurting anyone.. so if I give them a fake number then they are happy and I am ok cause I dont feel like I hurt anyone. and when they find out it is not a real number they have already gotten new ones. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted October 14, 2006 Share Posted October 14, 2006 it is because I am a person who hates to hurt feelings or make someone feel like they are not worthy of a phone number. first of all that when you say no I am not intrested they get angrey or have hurt feelings. I said some do but I am one of those people that fall into the catagory of not hurting anyone.. so if I give them a fake number then they are happy and I am ok cause I dont feel like I hurt anyone. and when they find out it is not a real number they have already gotten new ones. Personally, getting a number, calling it, and not hearing back from the girl is more hurtful than her just saying no right off the bat. At least then you don't get your hopes up. Don't fool yourself into thinking you're avoiding hurting feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Timberlane Posted October 15, 2006 Share Posted October 15, 2006 Personally, getting a number, calling it, and not hearing back from the girl is more hurtful than her just saying no right off the bat. At least then you don't get your hopes up. Don't fool yourself into thinking you're avoiding hurting feelings. Man, no kidding. I have no respect for women who can't just avoid giving out the number in the first place if that's what they would prefer to do. Calling a person who has no intention of answering the next day is just a waste of time. And it's a drag, too. And I have had women offer their numbers as well. I didn't ask them for it. Actually, I think a lot of them are just happy in the moment at the bar or club and do want to give you their number. Then they think otherwise later. I usually leave nice messages for those women telling them it was nice to meet them and take care. Met a nutty Swiss girl dancing once. She was a ranting hellion. Ha ha ha. Arrr, what a tangled web we all weave. Link to post Share on other sites
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