Maylove Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 Okay, So I started dating this girl a year ago in May and things went well, but I was a bit selfish and didn't particularly put her number 1. I fully admit I was being immature and also a bit scared of jumping into the relationship. I have been single most of my life and do quite fine for myself when it comes to attracting women and not getting tied down. Anyway... long story short is she got tired of it, and it turned into a back and forth battle of jealousy for a few months, which eventually she said she wanted me back, but then was being cold and indifferent and ended with a huge blow out on the 4th of July. We didn't contact each other minus she sent me a text to wish me good luck on the bar and a random call until about a month ago. I tried to keep up no contact but my friend told me to swallow my pride b/c I was clearly not getting over it and so I sent her a few drunken texts, nothing mean or anything. Then finally decided to be adult enough to just call her and left a message that was nice. She called back 2 days later and we talked and its been sort of up in the air. That was on a Wed, and then that Saturday she drunk dialed me and we ended up hooking up. She was clearly drunk but was going on about how much she loved me and missed me and the whole night wouldn't let go of me. The next day we talked for like an hour in the morning and then again that night. She said she thought it was a bad idea we get back together- but sounded sort of iffy like she wanted to see what my response was, but said she wanted me to come over and stay with her. We talked about the big fight and I was like you really hurt me with the way you were treating me and she was like, well I didn't want to be with you then... ? I was the one that started that fight and really blew up, which is almost NEVER for me. We've talked quite a bit, but sometimes she's still cold and brief. I get the feeling like she is fighting how she feels ? I ended up at her place on Friday again, we didn't really hook up but talked for a while and ended up passing out. Then on Saturday she called me at like 11pm, I was out so I just figured she was drunk dialing b/c its her birthday today and she was celebrating it w/ a bunch of girls. I ended up talking to her today and she was like I wasn't drunk, but I was running late to a meeting so I didn't really get the whole reason she called, but I'm assuming she wanted me to come over. I'm going to send her a card that is pretty open- which is one thing I"m trying to work on in not bottling my emotions. I can't really tell if she's in love with me still or just likes having me around b/c given our fight and what we've both immaturely done to each other in the past I wouldn't expect many women to wanting to keep in touch. Then again, its gone both ways, and since we've talked again its actually been pretty good. Anyone with some insights??? Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 Relationships are all about communication. If you really like this person, you should be open and honest about your feelings. You'd be surprised how much honesty can enhance a relationship. I dated someone for a year- and he never communicated his needs to me, always kept his feelings and issues with the relationship to himself. Because he wasn't communicating to me what I was doing wrong to harm the relationship- he just became resentful, and the relationship fell apart. When he broke up with me, he blind sided me with all these issues he'd kept bottled up inside. It struck me how much things would have been different if he had have just talked to me about how he was feeling. Just be honest, lay your needs on the table and ask her what she wants. We can give you all the insight you'd like... but the best person to provide you with insight is her. It does sound like she likes you, but is afraid to get involved because she doesn't know how you feel. Good luck... D Link to post Share on other sites
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