quietintrovertgirl Posted October 5, 2006 Share Posted October 5, 2006 This is not an english class and i could care less if anybody has grammar issue on this board.I'm hear to chat. I hope most people on this board feels the same way. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted October 5, 2006 Share Posted October 5, 2006 This is not an english class and i could care less if anybody has grammar issue on this board.I'm hear to chat. I hope most people on this board feels the same way. It depends on the topic. If it's a light-hearted thread, then I really don't care. If there's some good, thoughtful debate going in a thread, the grammatically crap contributions often prove to be something of a "dumbing down" annoyance. I'm talking about the really incoherent, rubbishy writing that tends to comes without the benefit of paragraphs, rather than the odd typo or not particularly well constructed sentences. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 5, 2006 Share Posted October 5, 2006 It depends on the topic. If it's a light-hearted thread, then I really don't care. If there's some good, thoughtful debate going in a thread, the grammatically crap contributions often prove to be something of a "dumbing down" annoyance. I'm talking about the really incoherent, rubbishy writing that tends to comes without the benefit of paragraphs, rather than the odd typo or not particularly well constructed sentences. u had a bad day? lighten up Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted October 5, 2006 Share Posted October 5, 2006 sooo.... i have decided to write him a letter, telling him my woories, concerns, fears and perceptions. Maybe I haven't had enough coffee yet, but how will writing about this (to him) help? I mean, he must not see anything wrong with harrassing his mom or he wouldn't do it. I don't quite understand why he would profess his love every 30 seconds, but would seem to me to stem from insecurity. Unless he's completely unaware of the insecurity (I don't see how he could be) then informing him of it without using it as a platform for discussion right at that moment, probably won't accomplish much. This isn't coming across very clearly.... Basically what I'm attempting to say is that if you want some of the issues resolved, or improved, then I feel you should use the "worries, concerns, fears" as a spring board into discussion. But in a written letter, its more like a dead end. Dropping a bucket down a well without tying the rope on first. There's no comfortable way to haul it back up. With a letter, you leave things in a state of non-interaction. An unloading of thoughts without a rope back to the source. Wow.. I really need more coffee... my brain is sluggish. Basically, I would use the letter as a way to clarify my thoughts, dissect them, and cut it down to the core issues. Then I would use that exercise in writting to approach him verbally. But that's all I would use the written letter for, an exercise, a tool to clarify feelings, thoughts. Its really hard for me to express myself verbally. I have a lot of anxiety when they concern things I care deeply about. I realized that I really can't resolve a problem through a letter though. Not once in my life has it resulted in positive benefits that lasted long-term. May have had short term results, but never long term. The face to face discussions have been the only means I've found to acquire the long term results. Just person experience... Link to post Share on other sites
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 5, 2006 Author Share Posted October 5, 2006 Its really hard for me to express myself verbally. I have a lot of anxiety when they concern things I care deeply about. I realized that I really can't resolve a problem through a letter though. Not once in my life has it resulted in positive benefits that lasted long-term. May have had short term results, but never long term. The face to face discussions have been the only means I've found to acquire the long term results. Just person experience... i understand. and like you, i am not good when expressing my thoughts verbally.... i can get maybe one thing out, but it seems my words get twisted, then i flounder, forget.....AND i do not want to end up crying or some BS like that. Link to post Share on other sites
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