This can go so many ways

[Antwuan]

I and my g/f have been together for 4 yrs, been through a-lot always loved eachtoher. She has done her part but I didn't give it my 110% and was responsible for our downfall. We are working things out and everything seems to be getting a-lot better. She is ready to settle down and I feel the same way, but I do not want to marry just yet, I'm not ready nor do I feel ready. I want to live my life with her and she tells me she wants to live her life with me. She is 19 and im 21, she feels like we are ready but I think things need to be worked on and worked out, I think she is rushing things.

 

She is not caught up on the "big wedding" thing she just wants a marriage, But i keep thinking to myself if we are both working things out why can't we be together and marry later on, we are too young, and so many changes can happen throughout that time. She can change so can I, I know I would never leave her side but she has been going through a-lot and she sometimes is unsure about a-lot of decisions and I feel WE would be making the wrong decision to marry now. I'm ready for it but I don't think she is ready. A-lot of couples when they marry young things flip around and people change feelings change, that is what i'm afraid of. I would love to hear from anyones side or story, please reply back.

[norajane]

With marriage, when in doubt, don't. I think you're right - you are young and people change a lot in their 20's. It really can't hurt to wait. If you love each other that much, you'll still love each other in a few years.

[adnCat]

I agree. Don't rush things, especially marriage!