David19 Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 Well, i have a problem... its been a 5 year problem... and just seeking some help. well back in 2001-2002 or so.. my mother left my dad.. and like everybody else they leave and wished they didn't. they were married for over 25 years. well she left and this whole 5 years... shes been a alcoholic. First she got with this guy he had some money.. he bought her a brand new Ford Explore... she got drunk and recked it befor she even got plates on it... *Flip it and Totaled it* but she was fine. then she left that guy and started meeting this other guy which is cool shes been with him for about 3 or so years off and on.. only thing is... once a week.. she would get drunk and would hate every man on the earth.. and would want to leave him and go party and drink... cause the guy she is with wouldn't let her just drink around there cause he knows how bad she gets. well back about 8 months ago... she recked another car of hers.. 94 GMC Jimmy. now she has a total of 2-3 DUI's... she went to jail over night... and her driver license was taken away for 5 years. shes on probation and has to go to AAA meetings. shes in all kind of trouble for drinking. and the guy shes with... she get drunks and leaves EVERY week and then come back and he keeps taking her back for why i don't know. he trys to keep her from drinking... everything he finds of beer and **** he poors down the sink... he trys so hard.. but she sneaks around to getting it. i just don't know what to do. i tryed talking to her. and she goes to meetings to get help.. but **** she gets drunk then go to the meetings. and they test her twice a month but still... just yesterday she left him again.. packed up her stuff but she will be back.. next morning she sobers up and realize what shes done then goes back... i just wish i knew what to tell her or do for her to stop.. but been talking to her for 5 years about it.. she won't stop for nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
tenacious Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 Wow David that really bites. I am so sorry. Your Mother really has done a 360 huh? I don't know what you can do about HER, but you have to think aout YOU and the stress and angst ths is causing in your life. May I suggest you start going to AA meetings yourself and that will give you the tools to deal with this disease. They will also be able to give you advice on how best to deal with this "new" mum you have. May I also suggest you take Mums' boyfriend along wih you? Best of luck.. I know how hard it is dealing wih substance abuse with a family member. My brother is on crack and it has been really really awful. Best of Luck David ..hope things turn around for you and you Mum. xxx Link to post Share on other sites
PWSX3 Posted October 14, 2006 Share Posted October 14, 2006 Sorry to hear the situation you are in because there is nothing you can do to help your mom, she will have to do it on her own. The bad part is most people like that have to hit bottom before the realize what is happening. I had a good friend that drank a lot and I tried everything I could to help her but you can't help someone that won't help themselves. Take the advice of tenacious and get help for yourself to help understand what is going on and what you can do for yourself. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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