Guest Posted October 7, 2006 Share Posted October 7, 2006 Heres my story: My girlfriend just left me after a loving 3 year relationship, but its the way it all happened that has me confused. Last Friday I came from work and we were planning on going out when she started crying and telling me she couldnt do this anymore, and that she has felt this way for a very long time. Obviously this caught me off-guard. She cited her reasons, there were many, and I totally understand, I wasnt the best boyfriend recently. I tell her things can be different and to give me a week to show it, if she feels the same in a week, she can leave and I wont fight it. She agreed to this and even apologized to me for wanting to break up! We went out to dinner, everything was great, we didnt really talk about "us" that night, good times. Then the next day I was going over to her place and stopped and bought some flowers for her. I got to her place and gave her the flowers and she said she loved them and gave me a big ol hug and kiss, good times still. We sit around and watch TV for a couple hours and she starts to cry again, again, saying she cannot do this anymore. I was devestated. We have talked a couple times since then and I have seen her once just to get some things. She acts like she has already moved on but I can tell she is still in pain. I am really confused as to what is going on. I try to talk to her the couple times shes called me to ask me for $60 I owe her (which I paid immediatley). I don't get what is going through her mind, does she really not want to be with me or is she angry and confused? Has anyone else gone through this same thing? Any advice would be very welcome. Thanks. ALso I feel like I have made efforts to move on, I have been going out with friends, going to the gym and working a lot more and the pain has subsided a little bit. I also feel that if she did want to continue a relationship I would have to think very long and hard about it. At this point I really just need some clarity. Link to post Share on other sites
neiu Posted October 8, 2006 Share Posted October 8, 2006 sorry to hear that. break ups are never fun and they're even worse when there is no rhyme nor reason to them. Then again, it might seem like that only to you. I always feel that when a girl breaks up with you, shes probably been thinking about it for a good month or so when she does it and frankly i don't know what you can really do at this moment to get her back. I would suggest trying to talk to her about it and to get it out of her as to what is really going on. I think that's the best way to approach it right now. After awhile of trying and you don't get anywhere I would say get onto NC and see where that takes you. If she realizes she wants to be with you she'll let you know, if not well I assume you'll never hear from her ever again. Either way, it's not the end of the world and you will see another day. Hope everything works out for ya. Then again some people are CRAZY, please stay away from them. Link to post Share on other sites
Amour77 Posted October 8, 2006 Share Posted October 8, 2006 Another guy in the picture? Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted October 8, 2006 Share Posted October 8, 2006 That would be my first guess. Link to post Share on other sites
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