Why dont I trust her?

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I've been dating my girlfriend for well over a year now. It's been a very good relationship/experience for me considering she is my first girlfriend.

 

Ever since early february my girlfriend has always been the one to cause some drama in are relationship. She gets in these situations i just wouldn't EVER do to her. It always comes back to "im sorry" or it "wont happen again".

 

Now i'll admit i can be a little jealous sometimes. My jealousy seems to stem when i find out something she has done, that i just wouldn't do. And now i end up being the jealous bf? It makes me sick to my stomach. Now is this being jealous or do we just have different ground rules?

 

I wanna get married, I wanna have kids, and i wanna have a happy life!

 

I love this girl. Other than this next thing im about to say.... I would say she is a great girlfriend. She definitely knows how to treat me good when were together.

 

But, I've always had a gut feelings my girlfriend keeps stuff from me. I think she has a hard time telling me the truth and telling me stuff that happens with guys. And for some reason there is always a guy issue popping up in are relationship?

 

Just recently before we went into a LDR with her, i caught her doing a paper for another guy in class. I was upset because i didn't know, and you can get kicked outta college for doing other peoples work. She ended up lying right to my face because i wanted to know his name and how long she has been talking to him.

 

That's all the details im going to give but all i can say is she looked at me in the eyes and lied to me 2 or 3 times, and i still have a gut feeling she isn't telling me other stuff?

 

This stuff happens all the time in are relationship, and it herts when u find out your best friend is keeping stuff from you and lying about it when you find out.

 

I've talked to her about it twice and made it clear it was a serious issue. She said she wanted to prove it to me, and she's trying but i still get a vibe she doesn't wanna try?

 

Now i've talked to close friends and family. A few of them were honest with me and told me they always felt like my girlfriend wasn't being truthful either? They've always felt like she was sorta strange in that sence and needed attention, even know she is very quiet around my family. They just get this bad vibe from her?

 

I just dunno what to do? How can i trust this girl when my gut is always telling me she has something to hide? It's really starting to have a toll on me, and im sick of worrying.

 

On top of all this her mom called me a physco who needed help because i was upset about this last incident, and her mom told HER you dont gotta be ashamed about anything you do with other guys unless you have sex with them, and cheat on your bf.

 

I honestly dont agree with that and i feel like serious couples do not flirt and do not try getting in situations they KNOW will hert their partner. That's just how i feel =(

 

I just need advice. Anyone been in a similiar situation?

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I believe everyone has a match. The person you should be with would never lie or hurt you.