flirting for fun or interest?

[girl]

When does flirting equal genuine interest and when is it just for fun or some kind of social game?

 

This guy's been flirting with me quite a lot, but he seems to flirt with everyone (though maybe not as much?) so I'm not really sure whether to take him seriously or just ignore it. What would you do?

[Big Pappa Pump]

Depends on the guy. Some people, guys or girls, naturally have that flirtatious personality. Sometimes it's harmless flirting and people take it the wrong way and sometimes they actually have an interest in somebody but because of this natural tendency to flirt, they aren't taken seriously.

 

It all depends on his personality and if he's into you. THe only way to find this out is to flirt back with him, don't go overboard, but do it naturally and see where it goes.

[Delice]

Maybe you could find out if he has a genuine interest in you by flirting with him too if you are comfortable doing that, or by asking a mutual friend - a friend you trust in case word gets around that you wanted to know if he's interested.

 

I know people who are born flirts. They flirt with everyone of the opposite sex. Some flirt only with people they are interested in.

 

There's only one way to find out!

[Ed]

Flirting is just about always for fun and also kind of a game to see how someone else reacts to the flirtatious behavior. There is no sure way to tell if the guy has a genuine interest in you or not, unless he asks you out or in some other way tries to go past flirting.

 

At this point, it really doesn't matter if he is genuinely interested in you or not. If he doesn't make some kind of other move, he just as well not be interested in you. What's important here is what level of interest you have in him. Depending on your level of interest in him, you could do anything from, ignore him...to asking him out on a date or anything in-between.

 

If you are not interested in him, don't flirt back. Just ignore his flirting and remain friendly with him as long as he doesn't get too pushy. If you are somewhat interested, flirt back, enjoy it and see if he will make a move to a more intimate level of interaction. If you are definitely interested and he won't go past flirting, you'll have to either settle for flirting, make the move yourself or write him off as still too immature for anything more than flirting.

 

What you choose to do about his flirting all depends on your style and what level of interest you have in him.

[velvet]

I think flirting is the sign of a bad boy/ or girl!

 

I gave someone my phone number at a club, I was dancing with this guy all night, it was great!

 

Since that night, he has called me a few times. He is overly flirty to the point where he sounds immature.

 

We had a conversation about his work, and he asks If I would put on a pink tool belt for him. I took that comment sexual. I could be wrong, because Im an idiot when it comes to dating.

 

He calls me baby! Does he call me baby, because he adores me or because hes a player, or what?

 

I just cant see him for who he is. I dont want to waste his or my time with false first impressions. I dont know if its worth going out with him this weekend after he makes comments like the pink tool belt, and asking me if I want to go to the beach with him sometime.

 

I like him, but afraid of the same tierd circle. Men just wanting to score!

When does flirting equal genuine interest and when is it just for fun or some kind of social game? This guy's been flirting with me quite a lot, but he seems to flirt with everyone (though maybe not as much?) so I'm not really sure whether to take him seriously or just ignore it. What would you do?

[wl]

Here is how my situation worked out. A guy flirted with me or what I thought was flirting for over 5 months (eye contact, pick-up lines, the works) without asking me out. I thought those were the signals for an open invitation so I took the "bull by the horns" and called his department at work to see if he was interested in me or was it just wishful thinking. Well it turned out that he had no idea of who I was. (Obvioulsy he gives out those signals alot)After triggering a distant memory he finally remembered and said that his girlfriend was in town (I'm thinking oh great) but maybe we could actually talk during the following week vs making eye contact.

 

Well this I think was my first and LAST time following up on flirting. And if he has a girlfriend why would he want to entertain a conversation. I do think that flirting is a sign of a bad boy/girl scenario. I don't know how I could have misinterpreted the cues but I had to know what his intentions were. NOW I KNOW. How could my radar be so far off.

When does flirting equal genuine interest and when is it just for fun or some kind of social game? This guy's been flirting with me quite a lot, but he seems to flirt with everyone (though maybe not as much?) so I'm not really sure whether to take him seriously or just ignore it. What would you do?