pinkFirm Posted October 8, 2006 Share Posted October 8, 2006 i have been with my bf for almost 4 yrs but he hasnt really introduced me to his family. However, his family in the beggining were very anxious to meet me... BUt my bf never took me! His family know who i am bc they have seen me when i knock the front door to ask for him.. And yeah i have been inside his house like twice that his parents were there. BUt initially he didnt do it the right way like "Mom, this is pinkFirm, my gf." We now live together and his family know ABOUT US.. But still he will go visit them every Sunday but HE WONT TAKE ME WITH HIM! I am very nice and sweet and very good looking!! What's the problem here??? Could it be the age difference that im 23 and his 35??? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted October 8, 2006 Share Posted October 8, 2006 Could he possibly be embarrassed of his family? I'm just wondering because this does sound odd. Have you ever asked him directly to go with him when he's going? What does he say? Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinkFirm Posted October 9, 2006 Author Share Posted October 9, 2006 Could he possibly be embarrassed of his family? I'm just wondering because this does sound odd. Have you ever asked him directly to go with him when he's going? What does he say? He comes from a wealthy family, so i dont think he is embarrassed. No i have never asked to go with him because he just says "ill be right back, im going to my brothers" He makes it seem that there is only guys around and its unappropriate for me to be around. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted October 10, 2006 Share Posted October 10, 2006 No i have never asked to go with him because he just says "ill be right back, im going to my brothers" If I were you, I'd suggest going with him. Make him seem like your heart is set on going. And then let him explain why you can't. Something just doesn't sound right. Link to post Share on other sites
YellowLioness Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 You say you live with him? Is it possible he is having a clandestine relationship with another woman, and using his family as an excuse? Have you told him that it bothers you that you haven't met his family? Yes, I do think it's strange. The longest I've gone with out meeting a boyfriend's family is 4 months. (long enough to tell whether you're going to be serious about someone) Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinkFirm Posted October 15, 2006 Author Share Posted October 15, 2006 You say you live with him? Is it possible he is having a clandestine relationship with another woman, and using his family as an excuse? Have you told him that it bothers you that you haven't met his family? This may be true and i have considered it before..... But he comes home to me everynight... But can be possible. Yes, i have but he doesnt say anything back to me.. he basically stays quiet or changes the subject.. He is a mommys boy even though he is 35 And im getting the feeling that his mom doesnt like me-- either beacuse in not a christian, or because im too young for him... His mom is always calling him and they have a strong bond and im getting the feeling that his mom wants for him to be with an older more conservative woman... maybe thats why he doesnt take me... in the other hand. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted October 15, 2006 Share Posted October 15, 2006 My family is pretty insular, they don't like "outsiders". It took years for my sister's husbands to get in with the family. Since I split up with my exH my family is completely uninterested in meeting anyone I date. I dated one guy off and on for over a year and they only ever met him at my house -- they never invited him over, and never wanted a formal meeting. No two families are alike. I'm just saying.... Link to post Share on other sites
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