Long-Distance College Relationship

[Guest]

Hey everybody,

Just need some advice from some people that are probably older and wiser than I, lol! My situation is similar to a girl's post a lil ways down. Here's my story:

 

I am 20 years old and in college in Madison, WI. My boyfriend is going to school in Milwaukee, WI, which is about an hour away. We have been together for about 3 years, 2 of the years we have been apart at college. I plan on moving to Milwaukee next year after I am done with school, he'll still have one more school of year left.

Our relationship has been great. We have little drama and fighting, we do sweet things for each other, all around great! Long distance has been hard but we've been doing fine up till now. About a month he was being kind of distant and he decided he needed some space. We decided that we could see other people during this time.

The first two weeks we didn't talk much, but lately he has started calling me again every night and has come to visit me some weekends. He says I am a great girl and everything that he's looking for and we talk about me moving there next year, but he says he doesn't want to commit again right now. I feel like he only wants to be with me when it's convenient for him, otherwise he wants to do his own thing. It's really hard for me to move on when things are so great between us except for that.

So what should I do? Should I try and find other people to date.. be nice to him wait for him to figure things out.. blow him off completely? Right now I feel like I should just wait and see, but I don't want to seem desperate and then get my heartbroken later. I don't know what to do!

 

Thanks!

-Shannon

[Rikka]

Hi Shannon,

 

I think you need to talk to him about this. About what happened during the time when he seemed to have gone cold. It may have been a period of adjustment or it may have been something else. Eitherway, it is important to remember that the both of you are in a time of your life where you are going through major life changes. I think you need to talk.

 

(Wow, I really shouldn't post late at night.... I will return to write a more succinct answer later)

[Mike-]

Hi Shannon,

 

I think he is playing you. I think you need to move on with your life. If he is really inlove with you, then he will not want anybody else but only you. So you need to break up with him

 

Good luck Mike- if you would like to email me, feel free at [email protected]

 

 

 

 

Hey everybody,

Just need some advice from some people that are probably older and wiser than I, lol! My situation is similar to a girl's post a lil ways down. Here's my story:

 

I am 20 years old and in college in Madison, WI. My boyfriend is going to school in Milwaukee, WI, which is about an hour away. We have been together for about 3 years, 2 of the years we have been apart at college. I plan on moving to Milwaukee next year after I am done with school, he'll still have one more school of year left.

Our relationship has been great. We have little drama and fighting, we do sweet things for each other, all around great! Long distance has been hard but we've been doing fine up till now. About a month he was being kind of distant and he decided he needed some space. We decided that we could see other people during this time.

The first two weeks we didn't talk much, but lately he has started calling me again every night and has come to visit me some weekends. He says I am a great girl and everything that he's looking for and we talk about me moving there next year, but he says he doesn't want to commit again right now. I feel like he only wants to be with me when it's convenient for him, otherwise he wants to do his own thing. It's really hard for me to move on when things are so great between us except for that.

So what should I do? Should I try and find other people to date.. be nice to him wait for him to figure things out.. blow him off completely? Right now I feel like I should just wait and see, but I don't want to seem desperate and then get my heartbroken later. I don't know what to do!

 

Thanks!

-Shannon