Author lady Posted October 11, 2006 Author Share Posted October 11, 2006 I use to think that all the articles on women reaching their sexual peak around 40 was just talk, but it has hit me right in the face with no warning. Link to post Share on other sites
Sup Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 what I meant about it being painful is due to his size. We have to be careful in most positions but me being on top does not always work. And as far as I know from talking to my gyno is there is nothing that will change that. We have been together 20yrs so it is not that he doesn't know how to please me it is he doesn't take the time that I crave. In other words he has become either a selfish lover or a lazy lover. But what I want to know is how to change his attitude. Short of tying his a** down and taking what I want. LOL And believe me the thought has crossed my mind. OMG if the frustration I've been feeling is any indication of what teenage boys feel then I am so sorry I was such a tease in high school. You may just have given your self an Idea, about tying him down! He might like that! Link to post Share on other sites
Sup Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 You might just need to relax more when you try the woman on top position, just a guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lady Posted October 11, 2006 Author Share Posted October 11, 2006 I have been the aggressor which is fun and very much a turn on. Yes he would love to be tied down. But how do I get him to understand I want to be on the receiving end also. And yes I have talked to him about all of this. So it is not just me hoping he will figure it out on his own. We need to get away from the house and the kids and just relax. Even just getting a motel room for the night would be nice. It will not solve all of the problems but it would be a good change. I know that things are not going to change without some work and communication and time. I guess I will have to get use to cold showers for a while longer. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Sup Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 Just a suggestion, you could wear just a bra and bikini panties, and meet him at the door! Make sure no one else is there that can see you of course, and open the door for him, SURPRISE! That'll get things started! Link to post Share on other sites
LVspecB Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 I just wonder if you are giving him as much consideration as you asked for? When you were on meds, you had no desire, were happy with sex once a month and probably just assummed her would understand and adjust... Now he is in a very stressful situation, in your words "up very late most nights on the computer for work", toughing it out to support you and the family, and your focus is on why YOUR needs aren't being met. Am I the only one that sees this as selfish? LVspecB Link to post Share on other sites
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