Pyro Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 Thanks everyone. I'm pretty sure this whole "acceptance" thing is a self-defense mechanism. I of course hope I'm wrong and that I won't spend "a lifetime alone," but it's much easier to prepare myself and make the most of my blessings. And in a way, it's put a lot of things in perspective. I'm tired of running around constantly keeping an eye out for some idiot at the bar who may or may not think I'm cute, or buy me a drink, or ask me for my number, or call, etc. etc. The truth is, there ARE people in this world who never find that "special someone." Hell, there are people in this world who never get a good meal, let alone a good mate. I don't have it so bad. If it helps, when I met my current SO, I wasn't even trying. I had been out of my last relationship for 5 months and I was enjoying the single life. I met her unexpectidely and it has been great ever since. Seriously, just enjoy yourself and stop thinking about trying to meet someone. Let that someone come to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 You will probably meet the one when you stop trying. When I met my wife I swore that I would rather por acid down my throat than get married again but here I am happily married today. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kittiecat Posted October 12, 2006 Author Share Posted October 12, 2006 You will probably meet the one when you stop trying. When I met my wife I swore that I would rather por acid down my throat than get married again but here I am happily married today. Well then, I'm friggin' ripe to meet "the one," because I'm done trying. I'd rather pour acid down my throat than go out on another "girls night." Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 Maybe it was the cocktails I consumed tonight, So you didn't stop drinking? Are you taking the meds that the doctor precribed to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 No ****, Sherlock. LOL:laugh::laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 C'est Vrai.. pouvez-vous élaborer T_T_S_P?? Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 pouvez-vous élaborer T_T_S_P?? C'est Vrai = That's true Link to post Share on other sites
mine own self Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 Kittie Kat, Ross K, This Too Shall Pass, What is the male-female ratio in your cities, work-places/schools, social events, apartment-complexes, etc.? That info is available in various places like census-records, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 Gosh you three. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop searching. Your only making this being alone thing harder on yourselves then it has to be. I used to feel the same way as you do. I couldn't attract a decent guy if I paid him too. I started feeling depressed and did TRY the accepting thing and it didn't work because it just ate away at me. Then when I stopped looking and such and changed my ATTITUDE about myself and life in general, I ended up finding my H. Didn't even take that long as I thought it would. If you truly don't want to be alone and you want to meet someone someday to spend the rest of your lives with, you will in time. So in the mean time keep yourself busy, not to busy and go with the flow. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 Gosh you three. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop searching. Your only making this being alone thing harder on yourselves then it has to be. I used to feel the same way as you do. I couldn't attract a decent guy if I paid him too. I started feeling depressed and did TRY the accepting thing and it didn't work because it just ate away at me. Then when I stopped looking and such and changed my ATTITUDE about myself and life in general, I ended up finding my H. Didn't even take that long as I thought it would. If you truly don't want to be alone and you want to meet someone someday to spend the rest of your lives with, you will in time. So in the mean time keep yourself busy, not to busy and go with the flow. "You three"? Are you including myself and Kittiecat in that? If you are - then read the first post again. Neither of us are feeling sorry for ourselves!! All Kittiecat was trying to do, was post her "stream of thought". She never suggested that she was unhappy, she was just being reflective. At least that's what I made out of it. I, for one, am not in the least bit sorry or unhappy. I'm actually much happier this way! Wouldn't want to change this in a hurry. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 "You three"? Are you including myself and Kittiecat in that? If you are - then read the first post again. Neither of us are feeling sorry for ourselves!! All Kittiecat was trying to do, was post her "stream of thought". She never suggested that she was unhappy, she was just being reflective. At least that's what I made out of it. I, for one, am not in the least bit sorry or unhappy. I'm actually much happier this way! Wouldn't want to change this in a hurry. Sorry about that. I didn't mean to upset you or anything really I didn't. I don't need to read the first post again. It's just that majority of the time people do feel that way and they just don't admit it and they accept being alone and focus on being happy and forget about it. And yes I did get that impression out of reading these posts. No one likes to be alone unless they have some good reasons to back it up and then it's understandable. Thats all I'm going to say and I am sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 Sorry about that. I didn't mean to upset you or anything really I didn't. I don't need to read the first post again. It's just that majority of the time people do feel that way and they just don't admit it and they accept being alone and focus on being happy and forget about it. And yes I did get that impression out of reading these posts. No one likes to be alone unless they have some good reasons to back it up and then it's understandable. Thats all I'm going to say and I am sorry. Hey! No problem, it's no big deal. LS promotes free speech (almost) Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 C'est Vrai = That's true I know that TTSP. I took french for 4 yrs in H.S. I was asking you to elaborate on why you agreed with me. Comprendez-vous? Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 I know that TTSP. I took french for 4 yrs in H.S. I was asking you to elaborate on why you agreed with me. Comprendez-vous? Oui, oui..... Now, my french is very rudimentary. I speak pidgin French I agreed with what you said in the post to which I replied. Something to the effect of "US not being the most supportive and friendly place". Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kittiecat Posted October 13, 2006 Author Share Posted October 13, 2006 Then when I stopped looking and such and changed my ATTITUDE about myself and life in general, I ended up finding my H. Didn't even take that long as I thought it would. With all due respect, I really do believe it's so easy to make statements like this when you're happy and content. Hell, I'd probably say the same thing if I were in your shoes. The only problem is that statements like these tend fall on deaf ears, especially when those ears are attached to a cynical head. I'm not miserable by any means. I can laugh at pretty much everything - including and especially myself. I'm more skeptical than anything. Mom shoulda never given me Barbies as a kid. I was supposed to be like that...you know, skinny, blonde, gorgeous, and living in a Malibu mansion with my hot, penis-less boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kittiecat Posted October 13, 2006 Author Share Posted October 13, 2006 Oh and RP - Nope, but have cut back drastically, if that means anything. The Ativan was horrible - made me feel worse. Stopped taking that completely. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 I'm not miserable by any means. I can laugh at pretty much everything - including and especially myself. I'm more skeptical than anything. Mom shoulda never given me Barbies as a kid. I was supposed to be like that...you know, skinny, blonde, gorgeous, and living in a Malibu mansion with my hot, penis-less boyfriend. KittieCat, that's hilarious. Link to post Share on other sites
mine own self Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 The reason I asked about the male-female ratios in your cities, etc. is because that is paramount to one finding one's mate. I thought I was wretchedly unattractive in high school and during my bachelor's degree. When I went for my master's degree, I found lots of women. Why? In my high school, there were hundreds more males than females. At the university where I got my BA, there were 5000 more males than females. But at the university where I got my MA, there were almost twice as many females as males. There was never anything wrong with me -- it's just simple supply and demand. I've read that some places in Alaska and northern Canada have way too many men so a hopeful woman could go there and take her pick. There are places like Cd. Juarez, Chihuahua, Mexico where there are way too many women; so a hopeful man should go there and take his pick. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 it's just simple supply and demand. I've read that some places in Alaska and northern Canada have way too many men so a hopeful woman could go there and take her pick. There are places like Cd. Juarez, Chihuahua, Mexico where there are way too many women; so a hopeful man should go there and take his pick. That's almost funny... Link to post Share on other sites
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