ironpumper Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 Hey y'all..what a great forum..I won't bore you with my LONG tale, maybe later..Here's the situation...The one I am attempting NC with is a store manager at a local mall. The thing is, her store is right next to a shoe shine stand, where I have several friends that I hang out with before I go to the gym there. She walks by there a lot, and we have been 'ignoring' each other for the past 3-4 months, not saying ANYTHING (until yesterday, when I decided I wanted to act like an adult and at least say "Hey"-she did respond in kind so I suppose I did break NC). She ALWAYS knows I'm there though. Is 'ignoring' her like I have been considered NC? She 'expects' to see me there, making excuses to run to her car or something when I'm there. Yesterday was the first time we actually spoke in 3 months. Did I cave too early? Here's a short version of why I'm trying NC: She and I have known each other for 4 years, we dated and I supported her store all that time. For some reason, she got pissed when I gave her a gift card last year for Christmas, but I didn't want to buy her anything too personal, since we weren't officially a "couple" more like friends, or so I thought. After i gave her the card, she confronted me in the store, basically said I couldn't come in there anymore, and when I went to the shoe shine stand to visit my friends, she contacted security and accused me of being a "stalker". I tried to reconcile once, a few weeks after that,which was the WRONG thing to do, and have been out of touch ever since. The thing is, we had a lot of fun over these past years, she was like a really good friend. BTW, I'm 48 and she's 29, so the age difference HAS been an issue in pursuing a friendship. I was head over heels though after I found out my best friend from high school married a girl the same age as her, SO I thought hmmm........ Anyway, gotta keep it short. It's been off and on, there is a very strong attraction between us, but neither one of us know what to do.I thought NC may help..I have recently met another young lady at the gym and am interested in seeing where that goes, but I sure would like to have my buddy back...At least she's speaking to me again... Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 14, 2006 Share Posted October 14, 2006 if your a stalker, NC wont help u get her affection Link to post Share on other sites
Author ironpumper Posted October 14, 2006 Author Share Posted October 14, 2006 if your a stalker, NC wont help u get her affection I'm no stalker..we both know that..We saw each other yesterday, and we both asked how we were doing. things are getting better now...I'm not gonna push her at all. But she was sweet to me last night and i think we're going to be fine soon... Link to post Share on other sites
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