rambutan Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 About three months ago I decided on a change in career and started a new job and I just love everything about it. The people are funny and friendly and the job itself is really exciting; I'm really happy. It's a four member family run business and only about 4 other staff including myself (myself and another woman are full time) Although there is one slight problem: I found myself having a crush on another workmate who is the same age as me. This wouldn't be that big a deal except he is my boss's son and also he manages our other branch (because of this I don't actually work along side him). I first found out I liked him when I got jealous when he was speaking to another woman and he said later that she she was cute. I found I was complementing his appearance more than I normally would and smiling whenever he spoke to me. He is a naturally confident and nice guy, smiling and courteous, so I don't know if he likes me. But I can't help but thinking he has been giving me more eye contact and hand contact than usual and he says Hi and smiles at me to me more than once when he comes round (which isn't that often but when he does mostly it's to hang out on the shop floor). Perhaps this is his standard way of dealing with people, but the other day I was smiling to myself about something stupid I did and I happened to look up and saw him smiling hugely at me. He's also been brushing my hand more when I hand him things and asking me about my hobbies and how my night was and such, patting my shoulder and laughing with me. I feel like a complete fool around him like I'm back to 16 year old crush rules. I would like to make a move or at least flirt some more but I don't want to jeopardize my job or our professional relationship if he doesn't like me too. Trust me I would SO not be going anywher near this but I'm not sure if I'm picking up a vibe from him or if it's my imagination. Because it's a family run business I don't know how the whole relationship issue lies. I'm so confused! Should I see what happens or just leave it be? We both spoke one time about what happens at the end of relationships and we both agreed that just leaving it and getting along is always the best way, that making it ugly has no point, so perhaps it would be okay if things didn't work out? GAAAAH!!! Help! P.S sorry about the length of this! Link to post Share on other sites
MsArcadia Posted October 14, 2006 Share Posted October 14, 2006 Crushes and the workplace rarely mix. Nothing greater and more fun than a "high" you get off a co-worker, but those "highs" can be shot down very easily. Remember, if things don't work out, you have to see him every single day. I would just try to cool my heels for a bit. Try not to let your fascination with him overrule any better judgement. I've seen it- its neither fun nor pretty. Link to post Share on other sites
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