napoleandynamite Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 I am only married a short time. The problem is, I never spend much time with my hubby. We both lead separt lives and we're always apart. More of my time is spent with my friends! Now that I'm getting older, I'm lonely. I need a boyfriend, sex, and love. None of which I get from my newly wedded husband. My question is, would it be bad if I found someone else on the side? I really can't live this way anymore. Whenever I go out with my girlfriends, we meet men, they like us, but I can't do anything because I AM MARRIED. It truly is a ball and chain. I'm married, not getting any physical or emotional satisfaction, but I can't do anything about it because of "morals." Is it really so wrong to find a SO on the side? I am considering going out with my friends to single's bars more often and creating a profile on a single's dating website. This is a horrible way to live. I feel like I'm in prision. I am married to someone who hates me and gives me nothing. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 Getting a lover is a bad idea. Getting a divorce is a good idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 So, in addition to being married why do you stay with your husband instead of getting a divorce? Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 I'm beginning to agree with Alphamale that marriage is obsolete. Everytime I see one of those old black and white romance movies I just laugh and change the channel. God is dead. Marriage is dead. Hopefully soon I'll be dead Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 3 words. GET A DIVORCE! Why on earth would you stay married to man who doesn't make you happy? Don't cheat, end it and move on. If your husband isn't willing to meet your needs and makes you miserable, what's the point of staying married. Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 Shouldn't you be scheduling your "seperate" lives around each other instead of the other way around? Maybe one or both of you needs to adjust your work schedule or even change jobs. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 Hm... obviously she has some solid motive to stay married. Can you tell us why? Because otherwise it really doesn't make sense. Finding someone on the side is not fair to yourself - you will not only have to hide your affair all the time and suffer, but also the type of man who would be with a married woman is different from the type of man who wants a serious relationship. Why not start a romance that has a perspective? If you feel that you have to stay married, but you're so disappointed with your husband, then why ask the question at all? Do what will make you happy long-term. Can you work on your relationship? Spend more quality time together? Are you in love with your spouse? Link to post Share on other sites
Adora Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 If you feel like playing the field.. why in Gods name did you ever get married? Instead of planning to cheat on your spouse, why not plan to get a divorce instead? Does your husband provide for you? You say that your husband hates you and doesn't give you anything... why in the world are you still with him then? You can't do anything about your relationship because of morals you say, although for some reason you think that cheating on your husband would be the 'moral' thing to do? Talk to your husband, tell him you are unhappy with your relationship. See what he has to say about this. A marriage revolves around both partners, not just yourself. Chances are, if you are so unhappy, your husband probably is too. Instead of unleashing the heartache an affair gives to a marriage, let your husband know whats really bothering you, then you both decide what is best for the 'both' of you (not just yourself) and work from there. There is never a good reason to cheat, ever. Link to post Share on other sites
kjl933 Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 Where are you located? I will date you! Link to post Share on other sites
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