Need Another Advice

[Joe]

Sorry about my last spasm.. it was just a rush I had Anyway, I have been wanting to lighten the color of my hair so I figured why not do it this weekend.. so I went back and asked her what he schedule was cause I wanted to lighten my hair.

 

She told me to call her tomorrow there and she could do it. So now I have my reason of going back. So now, I want to be tactical tomorrow in the means of finding out for sure whether she is single or not but I do not wanna seem as if I'm asking because I want to date her.. cause if she does then screw it.

 

What can I do to find out, but yet acting as if it were just a conversation rather than me actually wanting to know? What are some tips you can give me? What if she is single, what about asking her to do something? Should I? How should I ? How do I approach with it?

 

I'm a chicken when it comes to this, so I am in need of any and all advice.

 

Thank you for the help!

[Tony T]

You missed your opportunity tonight when she told you she was just going to go home after work. You could have asked her if she usually does things with her boyfriend on Friday and Saturday nights...that way, she would have given you the information you needed.

 

Now, you just have to ask her casually if she's seeing anybody. Don't be shy. If you ask about this anymore, I'll come there and steal this lady from you because I'm not at all shy about asking what I want to know. Women want a guy who is sure of himself and confident. If you act timid and shy, I promise you that won't be attractive to her.

 

Once she tells you she's not seeing anybody, ask her out right then and there. Don't hesitate.

[Joe]

Ok, I'm going to do it. I blew it tonight, but everytime she see's me she always asks what I'm doing. So I figured when I go get my hair highlited tomorrow, by her, I'll just asked her casually what she is doing Saturday night and if she says "nothing, as usual" or something to that I will say "You know, last night when I left I started thinking that since we both don't have lives that we could do something tonight when you get off work.. would you be up to that?"

 

How does that sound? Also are these "hints" that she likes me?

 

1. She always smiles when she see's me.

 

2. She always laughs with me and we make great conversation.

 

3. She asked me twice, basically, what I was going Friday night. She first just flat out asked, then afterwards said "you should go out and have fun" and I said "nah, I don't have a life".. she said "me neither, I'll just go home and do nothing"..

 

4. She always asks questions about my job, and all that.

 

5. She actually remembers my name and age and such.

 

6. She just acts flirtty.

 

Are these signs? How about her asking me twice what I was doing? Was that a hint that she was wanting me to ask her out?

[Tony T]

Sounds like she likes you to me. Now, ask her out for Pete's sake!!!

[Joe]

I am Like I said, I'm going in to have my hair highlighted just to see her and I'm going to ask her. I'm confident now, very much so. My biggest problem I now face is what color should I have my hair highlighted hehe.

 

Thank you so much Tony for putting up with me I will let ya know what happens.

Sounds like she likes you to me. Now, ask her out for Pete's sake!!!

 

 

 

[Joe]

I didn't ask her, I was but unfortunately we was talking and said "... the guy I'm dating now..." so my heart felt slightly broken after that so I didn't ask I guess I just want someone in my life so bad I mistaken niceness with someone liking me.

 

Sorry for all the troubles over nothing.

[Tony T]

I don't think that's any reason to be down. As a matter of fact, there are a lot of women who are unhappily dating someone but they won't let go of one guy until they have another real handy. That could be the case here.

 

You've just got to learn to listen a lot more carefully and ask the right questions. You can learn a lot that way. It could be that this lady is wanting you to make a move so she can see just where you can take her before she cuts the other guy loose. Don't ask me why some women do this but they do.

 

Or she could, indeed, be in a nice relationship right now. But that means nothing either. Just tell her it's too back she's seeing somebody because if she wasn't you would really go for her. That's all you have to say. I promise you she'll get back with you when the time is right.

[Joe]

Perhaps, even so I still didn't make the move today cause her saying depressed me so I didn't bother. Maybe next time, who knows.

I don't think that's any reason to be down. As a matter of fact, there are a lot of women who are unhappily dating someone but they won't let go of one guy until they have another real handy. That could be the case here. You've just got to learn to listen a lot more carefully and ask the right questions. You can learn a lot that way. It could be that this lady is wanting you to make a move so she can see just where you can take her before she cuts the other guy loose. Don't ask me why some women do this but they do. Or she could, indeed, be in a nice relationship right now. But that means nothing either. Just tell her it's too back she's seeing somebody because if she wasn't you would really go for her. That's all you have to say. I promise you she'll get back with you when the time is right.

[girl]

I just wanted to comment that "the guy I'm dating now" is very different from a boyfriend. It sounds to me like she's giving the guy a fair chance, but she's not entirely sure about him yet. Of course, I wasn't there, so I don't know exactly what she meant by it... but there's no harm in going back there for another hair cut in a couple weeks and politely offering to take her out sometime if she ever changes her mind about him, and giving her your number so she can call you if she wants. (Unless it's the only hair salon in town and you definitely will run into her repeatedly.. then that might be awkward).

I didn't ask her, I was but unfortunately we was talking and said "... the guy I'm dating now..." so my heart felt slightly broken after that so I didn't ask I guess I just want someone in my life so bad I mistaken niceness with someone liking me. Sorry for all the troubles over nothing.