can i possibly get a 2nd chance?

[joemoes]

My girlfriend and I would have been dating 4 months as of tomorrow. we broke up on Oct 7th the 12th is four months. She broke up with me on birthday. heres how it all went. we had a conversation a couple weeks ago and she said I shouldnt say i love you as much and talk about serious things, she used to like talking about getting married and having kids and stuff and saying how much we love each other. Then we were fine after that. Then saturday we were suppose to hang out for my birthday and went to a late movie because her dad made her go to her sisters soccer game for the day which was an hour away and it was a tournament. when she got home she called me we went to a movie. had fun then wen i dropped her off and got home she imed me and said we need a break. she didnt get me anything for my birthday might i add. i have been going crazy. We didnt have one fight until this. it was 4months of perfection. i know it doesnt seem like a lot but i am in love. So after she broke up with me we went to talk the next day at her house and she started crying i started crying then she stopped then i started crying histerically because i was about to leave. she said she wouldnt change her myspace or aim profile but they slowly are changing im number 2 on her top 24 now. monday we didnt talk at all. she told me to stop sending emails and harping on her. tuesday i stayed home from school and made her a card with a poem of how i felt and the card had our picture in it kissing in a heart on front and then i had a big heart on teh back with my signature and asked her to sign it when she was ready and i would take her back no questions asked. then i got 3 roses i got one to give her to break the ice when i saw her then the other two one was fake one was real i tied them together with a note and hte note said the real one is for how real the love was we had. and the fake one is how the love i have for you will never die. then i had conversatoins we had in passed parts saying i love u in an envelope. i didnt read any of this to her she just saw the first rose and started crying and opened up the manilla envelope that had everyhting in it and saw the other 2 roses and started crying. then her dad came home and i had to leave because she was grounded, but yet she went to olive garden last night the day she was suppose to be grounded. then i decided to let her contact me for now on. she imed me we talked she told me that it upset her what i gave her i said im sorry i shouldnt of done it and she said oh well. its ok. and today ive been driving around town road by her work once she didnt see me. im very confused and lost how it went so wrong so fast. she said in an email to a friend i was to klingy, and said i was going to buy her a ring. she was the one that said she would get married right then if i asked her i wasnt going to but we were just talken. she also said i was to serious. What should i do? she has had bad past relationships. i took her virginity as well. What does she mean by break? also her best friend is moving in 6 months outta state and she just found out, her mom is in florida for a week, her grandma is dying, but my dad has cancer and is dying slowly so i dunno what to do. HOW CAN I GET HER BACK? She tells me she still loves me.

[agnf666]

Well, I think what you need to try and do is try No contact with her for a little while. Give her some space and time to think and the same goes for you.

 

I know you wanna get her back, they say absences does make the heart grow fonder but the thing is that you need to back off just a little bit. The thing is that things were getting too serious too fast and she basically must have gotten scared and that is why she wants a break.

[daphne]

Joe,

 

From your post, you really are trying too hard and you are clingy. You are pushing her away by needing her too much. I would back way off and try to move forward. Read the forum, there's a lot of good advice. There's a push/pull dynamic to all relationships. You are pushing and are likely to lose her. A certain amount of aloofness, or independence, is important.

 

Stop sending her things. I would actually just go no contact for now and get your head straight. You are too attached and that's a bad place to be in.

[everlong]

sorry to not be helpful but the only thing i could make out about that post was i had no idea what either of you is actually doing.

 

it is all over the map. you say things that sort of don't make sense. like you both broke up [implying shared agreement] then say she broke up with you. and it continues like that. maybe you are upset. calm down and try writing your staory again. it sounds like you are both very young.

 

"My girlfriend and I would have been dating 4 months as of tomorrow. we broke up on Oct 7th the 12th is four months. She broke up with me on birthday."

[dr strangelove]

Well dude first I have say

 

PLEASE SPACE OUT YOUR POSTS!!!!!! DAMN its hard to read.

 

However what I did read was very interesting, and sort of like a good romance novel.

 

Sometimes people need space. Then when you are gone they realize whats missing. So just back off.

 

If doesnt work out for you dont worry little dude theres lots of clingy insecure women out there for the taking.. and they will just die that you cling to some much.. they will feel like they are in heaven, and want more and more and be somewhat jealous.. Oh the joys you have yet to experience.

 

Another thing is if your her first, chance are she will be back

 

In fact dont worry just bugger off for a bit get a hobby like playstation or something or buying and selling on ebay or vivisection experiments or whatever you kids do, and that will occupy your thoughts.

 

Pretty soon she will wonder where did he go and in fact this tactic is probably to sophisticated for her young mind to comprehend.

 

Doing no contact is very hard. I know I had to do it lots.. I have an ex Im doing it with and its been a few years off and on.. always her contacting me first.

 

Now I hope that is helpful and please notice how I broke up my post int different thoughts that makes it easier to read..