My Date

[velvet]

I went out with a few girls a couple weeks ago. We had left one club to go to another. As we were waiting to get inside, a guy grabs me by the arm, and pulls me inside. Well I never saw his face, it had happend so fast. Than he walked off without turning around towards me.

 

Just as soon as I got on the dance floor, this FINE honey comes up beside me to dance. This particular side of the club was very hot, so most of the men were not wearing shirts.

 

Anyway this fine honey with out his shirt ended up dancing beside me for the ramainder of the night. A good couple hours. I kept thinking to myslef, wheres the guy that got me into the club and I didnt get to thank him or even see his face. Turns out the guy dancing beside that night was him!

 

We exchanged numbers that night, and through the next couple of weeks he would call me ever so often. I enjoy talking to him.

 

Tonight was our first date, he picked me up decked out in a suite, took me to a dinner that cost him a fortune Im sure. The food itself looked more like decor! Afterwards he took me to one of his favorite clubs and I meet alot of his friends. At the club he tells me that he thinks he and I are great together. I had a really good time. But it bothers me to hear a man talk that way, because I dont believe a word of it, and I loose respect for him.

 

As he was taking me home, I was thinking all in all, the night was fabulous, he had said that alot of the girls at the club kept asking who I am, and even his ex g/f told him, that she aproves of me! ... What, why is he telling me this, all I hear is ("Im a dog, and I think you and I should lay")... Thats what goes off in my mind. He also tells me in the car that hes not like most guys, that he can get alot of women, knowing that doesnt make it any fun. Than he tells me Im not like most women, that most want to get married and be up their b/f butt all the time.

 

Is this something all men say, to try and make you feel SPECIAL? I was really enjoying him until all this stuff comes out of his mouth that makes it hard to register, because, I dont believe anything nice that comes from a man.

 

On top of everything he says hes he does not want a g/f, and wishes that everyone could just be cool with each other.

 

I even kissed him several times through out the night. For those who know me and my fear of kissing and dating, I like this guy. But Im terriable at reading people, he comes off as mr popular, money bags, joe cool, and I like him.

 

I dont know what to do, he asked me for a intimate kiss before he left tonight. I had kissed him several times, but not open mouth. I want to, but I dont want to waste my time, or his time so I dont know what to look for in him to see if he is just a player, or if he is one of the good guys.

 

any advice on what to look for in him? Because I dont believe anything anymore. I dont want to believe things he says, I dont want to waste my time.

[Laurynn]

Tonight was our first date, he picked me up decked out in a suite, took me to a dinner that cost him a fortune Im sure. The food itself looked more like decor! Afterwards he took me to one of his favorite clubs and I meet alot of his friends.

Whoa, maybe it's just me but if a 'first date' showed up at my door wearing a suit, I'd ask him if he was on his way to a funeral :-) That seems just a bit much to me, for a first date. Sounds like he was trying to hard to impress you. Did you have any idea he'd be THIS dressed up? Did it make you feel uncomfortable?

At the club he tells me that he thinks he and I are great together. I had a really good time. But it bothers me to hear a man talk that way, because I dont believe a word of it, and I loose respect for him.

Great together? That's a bit of a strong thing to say after spending only one date together..... seems like he might be starting to lay things on too quickly here. To me, that's a turn-off. Guys who say things like this make me instantly skeptical (more skeptical than I already am!).....makes me wonder, "okay buddy, what do you want? What do you have up your sleeve?" ..I think you can relate to this!

As he was taking me home, I was thinking all in all, the night was fabulous, he had said that alot of the girls at the club kept asking who I am, and even his ex g/f told him, that she aproves of me! ...

How old is this guy? What a stupid thing to tell you....that a lot of the girls were asking about you. Yeah, so? What's he doing, trying to make himself out to be such a stud and that all the girls are jealous of you because he's such a great catch? And this sh*t about his ex g/f "approving of you"....um, what? First of all, you don't MENTION an 'ex' on a first date (I think that's amazingly tacky/sign of insecurity)...but to say she approved of you, though you likely hadn't even met her? How stupid. And lastly...who gives a frog's fat ass whether she approves of you or not. Why would he CARE whether she does or not? Is he insecure? Doesn't have a mind of his own? Yuck.

 

What, why is he telling me

this, all I hear is ("Im a dog, and I think you and I should lay")... Thats what goes off in my mind. He also tells me in the car that hes not like most guys, that he can get alot of women, knowing that doesnt make it any fun.

Ahh..big turn-off #35. He can get a lot of women? Wow, aint he the studmuffin. What a pompous, arrogant, tacky thing to tell you. If he's really such a great catch, does he have to go out of his way so much to point that out to you? Secure men don't need to pull this crap. Awww, and the poor guy....knowing he can get all these women doesn't make it any fun. Geez, now I'm getting all misty-eyed LOL Sorry Velvet, but he's sounding more and more like a cheeseball.

 

Than

he tells me Im not like most women, that most want to get married and be up their b/f butt all the time.

Okay, let me get this straight. This is your first date and already he can tell that you're not like most women? Wow, is he Psychic or what? If it were me, I'd be insulted by a comment like that........cuz it would indicate to me that the guy is so cocky and sure of himself, that he thinks after one date, he knows me so well (ya don't know jack sh*t, buddy). And who says you DON'T want to get married? Um, where did that come from? Had the topic of marriage come up at all throughout the night? What I hear from this is: he's a player.....not into commitment......wants a gal who gives him all his freedom to come and go as he pleases, and never be questioned. Um, HOW OLD IS THIS GUY?

 

You could go ahead and go on a date with him again, to learn more about him......sometimes people on first dates make fools of themselves because they're nervous and are trying to hard to impress....that it's not a good representation of who they really are........but based on what you've written, this guy sounds like a chump. A smooth-talkin stud who's simply looking for someone to have a good time with, and really nothing more substantial. He sounds like the kind of guy who guages his worth by how many women like him........he sounds overly confident and cocky on the outside, but I'm betting on the inside, he's insecure.

 

Me personally...I'm always leary of/turned off by guys who smooth talkers....who lay it on too thick. It just seems to obviously phony to me, and it makes me feel insulted that they think I'm so stupid/naive, that I won't 'see through it all'......

 

So..he came right out and said he doesn't want a girlfriend. How does that make you feel? Are you looking to be in a relationship with someone, or can you be happy just being a casual date? Most guys don't confess on the first date that they don't want a girlfriend/relationship...so for him to say this, believe him...he means it......based on what you've written, he strikes me as the kind of guy who enjoys dating several women at the same time......that that really boosts his fragile ego.

 

Personally, this guy sounds like trouble to me. Take away the suit, the smooth lines, the b*lls***..and what's left? Does he have any good qualities? It's far too soon to tell but you must have some idea.

 

L

[yes]

why dont u go out w/ him again and see how he rlly is... u cant judge him properly after 1 date. who knows why he said all that.

 

u enjoy yrself w/ him? so go and have fun!

 

besdies, kissing him doesnt oblige u to anything, so just do whatever u feel comfortable with...

 

That's my view,

 

-yes

I went out with a few girls a couple weeks ago. We had left one club to go to another. As we were waiting to get inside, a guy grabs me by the arm, and pulls me inside. Well I never saw his face, it had happend so fast. Than he walked off without turning around towards me.

 

Just as soon as I got on the dance floor, this FINE honey comes up beside me to dance. This particular side of the club was very hot, so most of the men were not wearing shirts. Anyway this fine honey with out his shirt ended up dancing beside me for the ramainder of the night. A good couple hours. I kept thinking to myslef, wheres the guy that got me into the club and I didnt get to thank him or even see his face. Turns out the guy dancing beside that night was him! We exchanged numbers that night, and through the next couple of weeks he would call me ever so often. I enjoy talking to him. Tonight was our first date, he picked me up decked out in a suite, took me to a dinner that cost him a fortune Im sure. The food itself looked more like decor! Afterwards he took me to one of his favorite clubs and I meet alot of his friends. At the club he tells me that he thinks he and I are great together. I had a really good time. But it bothers me to hear a man talk that way, because I dont believe a word of it, and I loose respect for him. As he was taking me home, I was thinking all in all, the night was fabulous, he had said that alot of the girls at the club kept asking who I am, and even his ex g/f told him, that she aproves of me! ... What, why is he telling me this, all I hear is ("Im a dog, and I think you and I should lay")... Thats what goes off in my mind. He also tells me in the car that hes not like most guys, that he can get alot of women, knowing that doesnt make it any fun. Than he tells me Im not like most women, that most want to get married and be up their b/f butt all the time. Is this something all men say, to try and make you feel SPECIAL? I was really enjoying him until all this stuff comes out of his mouth that makes it hard to register, because, I dont believe anything nice that comes from a man. On top of everything he says hes he does not want a g/f, and wishes that everyone could just be cool with each other. I even kissed him several times through out the night. For those who know me and my fear of kissing and dating, I like this guy. But Im terriable at reading people, he comes off as mr popular, money bags, joe cool, and I like him. I dont know what to do, he asked me for a intimate kiss before he left tonight. I had kissed him several times, but not open mouth. I want to, but I dont want to waste my time, or his time so I dont know what to look for in him to see if he is just a player, or if he is one of the good guys. any advice on what to look for in him? Because I dont believe anything anymore. I dont want to believe things he says, I dont want to waste my time.

[Tony T]

It all sounds great to me. You should go out with him again if he asks you, although I really don't think he sounds like somebody you'll spend the rest of your life with.

 

He's a real charmer. I'm surprised he didn't propose to you sometime during the evening.

 

With this guy, I wouldn't take him real seriously...at least not for a few years...so it doesn't make any difference whether you believe him or not. Just go out with him for entertainment purposes only.

 

It's a longshot but maybe it could work out...just don't count on it. Don't take this seriously...just have a great time.