Vanquish Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 Its been awhile since ive posted but i thought i would ask. Ive been running into my ex's parents alot lately and always being indifferent and asking how they are doing and only asking about my ex's health. Seeing as i already know she moved on. But what gets me is her parents have to bring up the fact of missing me and telling me it isnt the same with me not around. Which knocks me back in my coping process by making me contimplate what my ex is thinking if her parents are thinking this. Maybe they are just saying it to make me feel better who knows. It sucks to have to reflect on the ex while talking to her parents though, because even though i can have a healthy conversation with my ex's parents, the ex is still cold. I just dont want them to go home and bring me up to her (ex) because she has had the oppertunity in the last few days to see how i was doing after surgery on wed but i never heard frpm her which is the good sign every last feeling she had for me is done so i dont have to wonder about the second chance theory. Although i did hear today shes been home sick the last couple of days and dont know what to make of that. Well there really isnt anthing i can cause she has already moved on. Either way has anyone else been in the same situation? How did the friendship with the ex's parents reflect on the ex? Just avoid her or a gradual friendship there too? Link to post Share on other sites
LaughMachine Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 You stating your sureness of her having moved on, makes it look like that the parents are speaking for themselves, and not that cold ex of yours. Seeing the parents can be just as worse as seeing the ex. So I can sympathisize with you on seeing them on a regular basis.. Obviously you haven't moved on, so that gives you doubts of the parents sincerity held towards you. I'm sure the PARENTS do miss you, and feel It isn't the same with out you. But I'm not too sure that reflects anything the ex feels. Remeber you weren't dating the parents you were dating the daughter of the parents. where do you happen to be seeing her parents lately??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vanquish Posted October 13, 2006 Author Share Posted October 13, 2006 at my work and around town at local businesses, mostly big grocery franchises in our town Link to post Share on other sites
Amour77 Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 It is a difficult one.... I have seen my ex's mother today, and as it has been said before, it is like seeing my ex.... She said things like: "How are you doing? "It is not easy" "All the best"..... My ex's mum liked me, I think, but she will back her daughter. Your ex's parents will do the same. My parents would feel bad for me at the moment, and if they talked to my ex, they would probably tell her that they miss her, etc.... but at the same time, they would not even speak to her because of what she did.... It is a tough call....don't try to look too much into it. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 My first ex's parents still tell him they wish he had stayed with me because we (parents and I) really got along great. They thought I was sooo sweet and soooo together. (Which is a problem when you're with someone who actually is not that together, come to find out.). It's been 5 years since the break up. My ex and I have both moved on and are now on really good, friendly, terms because it's become clear to both of us we were not meant to be together. Funny how that happens. (there was a period of NC before we ran into each other again and initiated friendship). My ex and I now joke about the fact his parents liked me so much. It doesn't mean anything though. Parents and ex are two separate entities. Her parents probably do miss you and did appreciate you. It probably means that they saw how great you were for her, but that doesn't mean that she doesn't have her own path to follow on her side. Link to post Share on other sites
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