Did you test your spouse before marriage?

[Woggle]

Prenup - good idea... Why?

 

Lets see Woggle has been divorced before, right? (he has a divorce lawyer).

So he's been taken to the cleaners by a former spouse and had to rebuild.

 

He says he isn't sure he can trust women - any woman. I can understand that as can any man that's had a woman betray him.

 

The problem is that when a marriage starts to have problems it becomes a power struggle. If a woman can take half or more of a man's assets, she has a lot of leverage in that struggle. And that can make "saving" the marriage all the harder because a man doesn't have the power anymore. If a woman can break a man financially, take away his business that he's spent his life building, she has the upper hand. Best to not give her that power, because we all know power corrupts.

 

I am divorced but I walked away from the marriage unscathed and that same lawyer did my prenup.

 

Every single woman in my life except my current wife has betrayed me. I grew up around all these mean, vicious and nasty women who despised men and made it clear that men deserve all the pain we get just for being born with a penis. My manhating mother used to have her manhating friends over and I seriously think it screwed me up in the head. Add to that the fact that the first woman I ever loved cheated on me, lied about me abusing me and raping in court, and tried to kill me and you see why I have issues with women. Those years of mistrust and betrayal will not be undone overnight.

 

I agree with you and that is why I had her sign a prenup. When a president is sworn in he takes an oath and when a person testifies they take an oath and they can be tried for perjury if they lie. To me the prenup was my way of making her take an oath to truly show she is marrying me for love and will not betray me.

[Guest]

To me the prenup was my way of making her take an oath to truly show she is marrying me for love and will not betray me.

 

And where's her proof that you wanted to truly show you were marrying her for love and will not betray her? How does it only go one way?

[IpAncA]

I don't know if I will ever be able to fully trust a woman. I would like to and that is part of why I am in therapy but there are some trust issues.

 

If you can't trust a women fully, why are you marrying this girl? If you can't trust her fully why should she do the same for you? I can understand why you want her to sign the prenup especially now a days but I don't think you should have made her sign one just to test her trust. There are other ways to do that.