LadyK Posted October 15, 2006 Share Posted October 15, 2006 I have been in this relationship for 9 years, we recently got married and had a baby boy last month. I really love him but lately our fights have become almost unbearable. We have always had some fights or disagreements but since I became pregnant the fights have become worse. He yells at me and sometimes breaks things. I tell him that I won't put up with him yelling at me but then somehow he forgets about the fight and acts nice and wants me to forget about it too. Like right after I had the baby I got real moody (post pardum depression) and he would not have it, he yelled at me for being mean and that just made the depression worse, he said that I don't have to be depressed and that the only reason I felt that way was because I was told that it was ok to act that way after I had the baby. But I really felt crappy and I really just wanted him to be there for me and hug me, I mean I just had a major operation (emergency c-section) and my body is not the same anymore. I guess he was feeling like he wasn't getting enough attention and that everyone was just worried about how I was feeling and they all asked about me and he thought that I got enough attention. I think he was jealous of the amount of atttention I was getting and really all I wanted was his attention. I know that the birth was hard for him too (seeing me in all of that pain and then on the operating table) but I feel like he could have been more supportive. I guess I am just talking in circles and that is just the tip of the iceberg. I guess what I really want to say is that I love him but he is not good for me and now we are married and have a son (which was my dream and is now turning into my nightmare) I just don't know what to do. I asked him not to yell in front of our son and he did today, bigtime, he even grabbed my arm and pushed me while I was holding him. I wanted to leave but I felt like that would make the situation worse. I feel stuck and I know that I don't deserve to be put down and called names especially in front of our baby. I really need some words of wisdom or advice. Thanks. LadyK (This post was separated into paragraphs by Moderator) Link to post Share on other sites
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