after you if you still feel safe about meeting and 'falling in

[everlong]

after you read this ask yourself if you still feel safe about meeting and falling in love with some online..use the link and go directly to the site...

 

maybe next time you will think twice about that wonderful gal or hunky chunky monkey you are chatting with [and about to end a marriage for]

 

The Bad Boys of C-space

 

Deviant Behavior in Online Multimedia Communities

and Strategies for Managing it

 

SNERT... That's what they call the real trouble-makers of cyberspace. Attributed by some to Kurt Vonnegut, the term stands for "snot-nosed Eros-ridden teenager." It concisely captures much of what many cyberspace deviants are all about. They thumb their impudent noses at authority figures and smear their ooze of discontent all over themselves and others. Frustrated drives seeking an outlet may fuel their misconduct - frustrated aggressive drives as well as sexual ones. They often are adolescents. If they aren't, then they are regressed adults acting like adolescents. In some communities, the term "snert" broadens to include any acting out, annoying, disruptive user. [/sIZE][/FONT]

 

http://www.rider.edu/~suler/psycyber/badboys.html#Depressives

[Sand&Water]

Reply:

 

Interesting. Interesting.

 

Although, most of the information belonging to and surrounding the subject matter of "Online Bad Boys" is common sense.

 

Even, men and women, in real life display a majority of the traits described on the site.

 

Question: Would you consider, the below behaviours, as Red Flags? [Possibly suggesting that the woman, the male is talking to, is being played]

(A) The man has fake-filled profile.

(B) Has a registered e-mail address with xyz@zyxdotcom, but doesn't write [nor replies] the woman any e-mails.

© He does not reveal his real name. Nor describes the details of his day/life.

(D) Expects the woman to engage in open communication, conversation, but doesn't do the same in return.

 

These behaviours would suggest he is playing the woman.

 

But, it is difficult to completely understand the intentions and at the same time be able to draw a line between "Stalker/Bad Boy/Player" and "Just-another-normal-overlyprotective-male".

 

So, What do you [or anyone else] think? I'm just wondering.

 

Thanks for the information.

 

Regards,

Sand&Water

[everlong]

that is a shame. i am getting the same doubt treatment. just look at my post about deadlines and the blame game.

 

in my case, the ex has removed any avenue to contact her. she lived with me for 4 freaking years and should know me by now. she broke up with me, went nc, and reach ecpects me to somehow contact her, and the two times i did, she flipped and reported. she blocked emails, changed phone number, and if you read the post [deadlne] you will see that i have done am doing will do nothing. she has my email addy, phone number - she broke it up so, slammed the door, so - my hands are tied and she klnows that. she knows that. i am not playing anyone. read my post. i am a loving man and agood father that just got the wrong end of a deal. that's life. i moved on. so you tell me who should be worried, her or me? all i wanted to do was enable that we act as adults so kids don't grow up with false crap, and well, the rest is in the other posts.