tanbark813 Posted October 16, 2006 Share Posted October 16, 2006 So this past weekend there was an Oktoberfest celebration at Fort Mason in San Francisco. The place is huge and there's always a large crowd with lots of live music, dancing, drinking (of course), and good food. It's a blast. So my friend and I are walking around just being social, mainly with girls. We start talking to this one girl who's clearly very drunk but also very cute. I start taking pictures of her posing with my friend just goofing off and then next thing you know they're kissing. Then about 5 minutes after that she reveals to us that she has a long-distance bf in Tahoe but "what he doesn't know won't hurt him". I felt bad for the bf but then I start probing her in a joking way, asking if he's the one and things like that, to which she replies she thinks he is and is all giddy about the whole thing. Of course, this girl obviously isn't going to tell her bf what happened, and it's probably not the first time she's cheated on him. I just thought the whole situation was both funny and sad. It's enough to make you want to stay perpetually single. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 16, 2006 Share Posted October 16, 2006 ...alchohol and fidelity usually don't mix. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted October 16, 2006 Share Posted October 16, 2006 The boyfriend far away & going to a celebration of beer alone. Ah well, maybe he's getting pissed in Tahoe without her. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted October 16, 2006 Share Posted October 16, 2006 marriage is on it's death throws anyway... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 16, 2006 Share Posted October 16, 2006 marriage is on it's death throws anyway... where? in the US? it seems to be OK in other countries... Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted October 16, 2006 Share Posted October 16, 2006 So this past weekend there was an Oktoberfest celebration at Fort Mason in San Francisco. The place is huge and there's always a large crowd with lots of live music, dancing, drinking (of course), and good food. It's a blast. So my friend and I are walking around just being social, mainly with girls. We start talking to this one girl who's clearly very drunk but also very cute. I start taking pictures of her posing with my friend just goofing off and then next thing you know they're kissing. Then about 5 minutes after that she reveals to us that she has a long-distance bf in Tahoe but "what he doesn't know won't hurt him". I felt bad for the bf but then I start probing her in a joking way, asking if he's the one and things like that, to which she replies she thinks he is and is all giddy about the whole thing. Of course, this girl obviously isn't going to tell her bf what happened, and it's probably not the first time she's cheated on him. I just thought the whole situation was both funny and sad. It's enough to make you want to stay perpetually single. What a shame. The last three women I dated I found out 1 of the was married, and the other two had a least a B/F. I quickly reconsidered my dating them again. I think I'm to the point to where I just want to date and have sex, no getting involved emotionally. D'oh! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 So this past weekend there was an Oktoberfest celebration at Fort Mason in San Francisco. The place is huge and there's always a large crowd with lots of live music, dancing, drinking (of course), and good food. It's a blast. So my friend and I are walking around just being social, mainly with girls. We start talking to this one girl who's clearly very drunk but also very cute. I start taking pictures of her posing with my friend just goofing off and then next thing you know they're kissing. Then about 5 minutes after that she reveals to us that she has a long-distance bf in Tahoe but "what he doesn't know won't hurt him". I felt bad for the bf but then I start probing her in a joking way, asking if he's the one and things like that, to which she replies she thinks he is and is all giddy about the whole thing. Of course, this girl obviously isn't going to tell her bf what happened, and it's probably not the first time she's cheated on him. I just thought the whole situation was both funny and sad. It's enough to make you want to stay perpetually single. The situation is sad. Who knows just how serious he is for her. Its sad that some women and men will cheat on their spouse if given the opportunity. It doesn't phase me at all. I am fully aware that anyone is capable of cheating at any opportunity. Just be sure to take things slow and really get to know the person before opening your heart to them. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 The situation is sad. Who knows just how serious he is for her. Its sad that some women and men will cheat on their spouse if given the opportunity. It doesn't phase me at all. I am fully aware that anyone is capable of cheating at any opportunity. Just be sure to take things slow and really get to know the person before opening your heart to them. her dude probably thinks shes the one, and most awesometoo.... either that or while she is at ocktober-fest he is doing some other attention whore..... girls are freakin bad news..... never trust one further than you can throw her! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 her dude probably thinks shes the one, and most awesometoo.... either that or while she is at ocktober-fest he is doing some other attention whore..... girls are freakin bad news..... never trust one further than you can throw her! Thats silly. You almost sound serious about not trusting women. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 Thats silly. You almost sound serious about not trusting women. well it really goes the same for both sexes..... unless i have reason enough TO trust them. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 well it really goes the same for both sexes..... unless i have reason enough TO trust them. Like I said above, anyone is capable of cheating, but I will not sit here and assume the worst. If she cheats, then she does, but I will not sit here in fear and worry that my GF will cheat on me. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 Like I said above, anyone is capable of cheating, but I will not sit here and assume the worst. If she cheats, then she does, but I will not sit here in fear and worry that my GF will cheat on me. with me, it's not nessarily even cheating, so much as just trusting someone..... either not to judge me, to criticise me, etc..... honestly, unless i have prooof to believe some one is cheating, it may not cross the vortex.... but the whole trust someone thing ..... with anything and any one person is difficult for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 with me, it's not nessarily even cheating, so much as just trusting someone..... either not to judge me, to criticise me, etc..... honestly, unless i have prooof to believe some one is cheating, it may not cross the vortex.... but the whole trust someone thing ..... with anything and any one person is difficult for me. I can understand that. It is hard to trust someone completely. I just feel that life is too short to worry about that type of stuff. I am always prepared for the worst. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 I can understand that. It is hard to trust someone completely. I just feel that life is too short to worry about that type of stuff. I am always prepared for the worst. but by being "prepared for the worst" you have some guard up. so how can you be Totally trusting? Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 but by being "prepared for the worst" you have some guard up. so how can you be Totally trusting? You really can't be 100% trusting, but I won't let that bother me or stress me out. I just keep my ears and eyes open and if my gut tells me that something is wrong, then it probably is. I guess that I really can't explain this feeling. Its just something that I acquired along the way. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 You really can't be 100% trusting, but I won't let that bother me or stress me out. I just keep my ears and eyes open and if my gut tells me that something is wrong, then it probably is. I guess that I really can't explain this feeling. Its just something that I acquired along the way. so you have learned to "listen" to your gut instincts always? did you not before? Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 so you have learned to "listen" to your gut instincts always? did you not before? Not everytime. It varies from situation to situation. Lets just say that in the past I was very naive. Link to post Share on other sites
BenThereDunThat Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 So this past weekend there was an Oktoberfest celebration at Fort Mason in San Francisco. The place is huge and there's always a large crowd with lots of live music, dancing, drinking (of course), and good food. It's a blast. So my friend and I are walking around just being social, mainly with girls. We start talking to this one girl who's clearly very drunk but also very cute. I start taking pictures of her posing with my friend just goofing off and then next thing you know they're kissing. Then about 5 minutes after that she reveals to us that she has a long-distance bf in Tahoe but "what he doesn't know won't hurt him". I felt bad for the bf but then I start probing her in a joking way, asking if he's the one and things like that, to which she replies she thinks he is and is all giddy about the whole thing. Of course, this girl obviously isn't going to tell her bf what happened, and it's probably not the first time she's cheated on him. I just thought the whole situation was both funny and sad. It's enough to make you want to stay perpetually single. About how old was this girl? Did they do any more than kiss? If not, chances are she woke up the next day -- if she even remembered -- and felt like sh*t about the whole thing. Or could be that she's just too flippin' young to have settled down, let alone with someone who lives out of town. Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 if she even remembered -- and felt like sh*t about the whole thing I seriously doubt it. Link to post Share on other sites
Cheshire Cat Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 I agree that it's a sad story, but I think that it would be unfair to draw conclusions about the opposite sex basing on what you might witness at events such Oktoberfest celebrations. The kind of environment you are in *does* count. Most people I know whould not be happy with their SO going to an Oktoberfest event on their own. Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 I agree that it's a sad story, but I think that it would be unfair to draw conclusions about the opposite sex basing on what you might witness at events such Oktoberfest celebrations. The kind of environment you are in *does* count. Most people I know whould not be happy with their SO going to an Oktoberfest event on their own. Good point! Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 I forgot about Octoberfest with all the great German pils. I need to check the local listings. Ich liebe Spatenweissebier Link to post Share on other sites
Author tanbark813 Posted October 17, 2006 Author Share Posted October 17, 2006 About how old was this girl? Did they do any more than kiss? If not, chances are she woke up the next day -- if she even remembered -- and felt like sh*t about the whole thing. Or could be that she's just too flippin' young to have settled down, let alone with someone who lives out of town. She looked about 22 - 24. They only kissed once. Then we hung out another several minutes before parting ways. I agree that it's a sad story, but I think that it would be unfair to draw conclusions about the opposite sex basing on what you might witness at events such Oktoberfest celebrations. Right, I'm not trying to say that all women will cheat on their men. It was more just an observation from the weekend. The kind of environment you are in *does* count. This I disagree with. If you're truly devoted to your partner you should be able to remain faithful in any environment. Link to post Share on other sites
Cheshire Cat Posted October 17, 2006 Share Posted October 17, 2006 This I disagree with. If you're truly devoted to your partner you should be able to remain faithful in any environment. I actually agree with you. It's just that I find it easier to witness cheating going on in certain environments - usually, the same ones that some people will hang out in hoping to get laid. I know a number of guys who travelled a long way to attend Oktoberfest (in Munich) - they were more interested in seizing any chance to cheat on their partners than in drinking beer. A cheater is a cheater, but might be more prone to admit it openly when far away from home. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tanbark813 Posted October 17, 2006 Author Share Posted October 17, 2006 Ahh, okay. I would agree with that. Link to post Share on other sites
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