getting relationship from ghosts - does any have any thoughts on this?

[everlong]

hi again,

 

first let me say the 'ghosts' part in the subject line is not really correct [more of a bait and switch ploy to get some responses regarding an issue]

 

i am extremely curious and am wondering if sopmeone could possible explain the rational behind this. some of u out there might be familiar with my story. lately i have been receiving 'advice' from 'people' regarding a past relationship. however lately it has gotten out of control [and weird especially seeing that i am planning on dating, on being in a relationship, planning on anything related, etc, with this person - this was over a very, very long time ago- she broke up with me. i moved on. that's all there is to the story. i am not even sure why 'people' are sending me info regarding this. i stated myself clearly. she hasn't spoken to me in over 8 months. there is nothing going on. i don't even have the foggiest idea where she lives, what she does, etc. and i don't need to know that because it we are simply two people that dated once now. so, clearly - this is weird].

 

ok, i have counted over 35 responses in the last two days alone and, each one is just slightly different but allways a new moniker and pix]. and i realize what games are played - i ma not worried about that. what i am wondering is this - all these 'people' apparently have enuff information about things, use language, etc. that is a marker for me. but let me repeat this people - that thing ended 8 months ago - over ok. and i am fine, healthy, everything is ok! and i am not going to disclose any info - lets just say i am not single and i haven't been for a while. anything else, is non-existant. get it? i am not requesting anything, there is no whacky thing going on, the is no request from me for info from this person, no engagment, etc. nothing - we are not attached in any way, legal, martially, financial, etc. i amnot on any dating sites looking to meet anyone, if i had a profile up, it is probably 500 years old and i have no idea what site, passwords, etc. i deleted a profile on any site ages ago - if these people know of one just delete it for me. i am not intersted - get it! i don't post blogs, etc. there is no conflict of interest, this person is not my gf, not my wife, not my fwb, not my mistress, not my friend, etc. this person is just a stranger - nothing - that's all there is to it - ta da!

 

i guess my question is this - if these 'people' truly know me and are interested in provide advice for whatever reason - why would they post that on a site, say like this one, or heydude.com if they are concerned and know me, chances are they have my phone number and email addy. so, why in the world would anyone not just pick up the phone instead of playing the same games these 'people' claim to not be doing. wouldn't a normal person just call?

 

any thoughts? here are just a few

 

enjoy

 

[COLOR=#0000ff]Eeyores Friend[/COLOR]

Another thing that you need to realize is that people treat you the way you allow them too

[COLOR=#0000ff]pyjammez[/COLOR]

No, you are not a gentleman. A gentleman has his act together and knows to avoid crazy psycho ****es like the woman you've just told us about

 

[COLOR=#0000ff]aman01[/COLOR]

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Why would you stay involved with someone like that?

 

[COLOR=#0000ff]MsChar54[/COLOR]

hey hun bend over and i will give you a boot to get you on the road to ending this very unhealthy relationship! break things off with her and dont let her think there is even a chance of getting back together !

[maoserr]

I just read that thing twice, and I'm still confused...

[jletter]

"Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean that they're not after you." (Nirvana)

[SoCalCatman72]

I've been on that site, I cancelled my profile because of the stupid crap you just described.