My College Lecturer is into Teen Porn..

[BlackHannah]

I'm shocked. I know all men look at porn and consider it quite normal, it's just the fact that it's TEEN that's making me sick. This is someone I respected, even had a slight crush on and I'm completly disgusted. This guy is in his mid 40's. I myself am in mid 20's so it's not like I'm a teen either. I found out few days ago when I was in his office and we were working on a project. He had to go out for a bit and I asked if I can use his computer. Once there, I couldn't resist looking at his internet history folder. I found it FULL of teen porn sites. Different sites but keyword is always teen. I went to few of those sites at home to check them out, and some have young 18 and over girls which is fair enough, but they are also full of girls that look like underdeveloped kids I can't remember what he is clicking on, but since he searches for teens it's possible that he looks at those. YUCK!!!!

 

I can't look at him the same way anymore. All I see is a sick pervert. Am I overreacting???? I can't get it off my mind how sick this makes me. Is it normal for men to look at TEEN porn? I even got a sense before this that he is attracted to me but I guess I'm past his age limit :sick: :eek:

 

P.S. He is in a serious relationship (not married) with someone couple of years older than himself so it's not like he isn't getting any sex.

[JN322]

A couple of things:

 

1) I think you may have posted this in the wrong forum category.

 

2) It is kind of wrong for you to go peeping through his stuff. So while you may be looking at him as a pervert, if I were him I'd be looking back at you as a jackass for doing that.

 

3) "Teen" porn consists of 18 and 19 year olds (and probably older girls as well who look young enough to pass for 18 year olds). Actual pay sites use adults and by law have to have proof of age on file, so its not like its pedophillia. Its common thing, yeah I'd say you're overreacting.

[everlong]

i know...i hear yah...u would be surprised at how it has spread to all walks of life

 

a friend told me he once dated this 48 year old female, that works with troubled teenagers and kids and she had download a whole bunch of stuff - i will not even repeat what he told me

 

yup - seems like no one is immune in these glass houses eh

[JamesM]

And as a guy who is in his forties, I know this is going to be hard for you to comprehend...because I would have felt the same as you....

 

When a man or woman reaches his forties, he or she doesn't always FEEL as old as you THINK he or she is. When I look at girls/women in their twenties and some who I find are teens, I am not always thinking that this could be my daughter. Maybe when I have children that age, I may. But for many men, it is not a "Sick" thing, it is simply feeling younger inside than the outside says. So, the fact that he is looking at young women...this is not so much different than looking at women in their thirties...good or bad.

 

Although you WERE snooping, the issue I have a problem with is that he is watching porn while is on the job. And to have a computer which students can use be the same one he uses to peruse porn sites...this I find wrong and disgusting. Do you think he knew you might see those sights? I find it hard to believe that the University would allow such use of his computer at school.

[Rooster_DAR]

I'm shocked. I know all men look at porn and consider it quite normal, it's just the fact that it's TEEN that's making me sick. This is someone I respected, even had a slight crush on and I'm completly disgusted. This guy is in his mid 40's. I myself am in mid 20's so it's not like I'm a teen either. I found out few days ago when I was in his office and we were working on a project. He had to go out for a bit and I asked if I can use his computer. Once there, I couldn't resist looking at his internet history folder. I found it FULL of teen porn sites. Different sites but keyword is always teen. I went to few of those sites at home to check them out, and some have young 18 and over girls which is fair enough, but they are also full of girls that look like underdeveloped kids I can't remember what he is clicking on, but since he searches for teens it's possible that he looks at those. YUCK!!!!

 

I can't look at him the same way anymore. All I see is a sick pervert. Am I overreacting???? I can't get it off my mind how sick this makes me. Is it normal for men to look at TEEN porn? I even got a sense before this that he is attracted to me but I guess I'm past his age limit :sick: :eek:

 

P.S. He is in a serious relationship (not married) with someone couple of years older than himself so it's not like he isn't getting any sex.

 

Sound like a cool guy to me!!

 

LOL

[Moose]

Has anyone considered that this professor could be doing research for his next lecture?

[Rooster_DAR]

Has anyone considered that this professor could be doing research for his next lecture?

 

:laugh::laugh:

 

OMG!!!!!

[JN322]

Gives a whole new meaning to "Women's Studies"

[riobikini]

BH, your post was a statement only lamenting your horror and disgust -not in the form of a question as to what you should do -or how you should react in his company from here on out.

 

But, to me, it's pretty obvious you still want feedback.

 

Since the computer was (probably) owned by the academic institution he was either affiliated with or was employed by, there may be no issue with having viewed the history -at least by other staff members.

 

Check on that to make sure -law is not my forte.

 

And I'd say -in any case- let someone in authority at the institution know about it.

 

You might take some heat, and he might, unfortunately, still get to keep his job after receiving only a little scolding-but unless he has buddies on staff who are just as interested in teen porn as he is (at work) *someone* will have to address it.

 

And *good luck*!!

 

-Rio

[Craig]

. . . I asked if I can use his computer. Once there, I couldn't resist looking at his Internet history folder. I found it FULL of teen porn sites. Different sites but keyword is always teen. . .

 

Craig: Ms. Hannah, are you saying that you asked to use this college lecturer's computer and he agreed to let you use it and that he did not directly supervise your use of the said computer?

 

Ms. Hannah: Yes, Sir that is exactly what I am saying.

 

Craig: So it is entirely possible that this college lecturer has allowed other students and/or faculty to use his computer free from his direct supervision? And furthermore, anyone of these people that your college lecturer may have let use his computer, unsupervised I might add, could, have been the person or persons looking at porn sites?

 

Ms. Hannah: Yes it is but . . .

 

Craig: Thank you Ms. Hannah that's all. I rest my case.

[riobikini]

Thanks, Craig, for clearing that up.

 

And sadly, as much as we hate to, -we have to realize that's a good picture of how many squeak on by.

 

-Rio

[norajane]

I think you're mostly dealing with the disappointment and disillusionment of discovering that this man you admired and had a crush on and probably fantasized about being with is a male who is turned on by very young looking women...that's why you're so sick about this.

 

JamesM is right. Those sites are legally obligated to only hire women who are over 18. So they are not underage even though they might look very young. And he's also right that people - men and women - do not necessarily feel as old as you think they ought to feel by virtue of their age. When you are 40, you will see that you don't really feel any older inside than you are now.

 

In any case, you're young enough to be his daughter too, and that didn't give you the willies. Porn - like your own masturbation fantasies - sometimes taps into the darker parts of our psyches, and we don't necessarily ever want to act it out and it may even embarrass us when we're not wanking. Surely, there are some fantasies you have that you'd hate for anyone to know about, especially as they would give someone the wrong impression of who you are...

 

You'll get over your disappointment. Besides, he's in a serious relationship - THAT should be more of a concern for you than what kind of porn he likes.

[kjl933]

Yeah--is the computer used by others in the dept? I am surprised that the University would not have filters. Moose is right, he could legitimately be researching. He could be a perv. My guess is that it is not ethical, also not illegal. If you create a stink, he may lose his job. I would think that would weigh on you a lot heavier than knowing your crush was looking at porno.

 

But, if you feel that these are legitimate teens (under 18)--and the sites would prpbably not be a typical .com but a .de .ru, or some other extension for a European nation.

[Craig]

Thanks, Craig, for clearing that up.

 

And sadly, as much as we hate to, -we have to realize that's a good picture of how many squeak on by.

 

-Rio

Awww Rio you are right but it also protects the innocent as well. I never like to see someone convicted of something they didn't do. I don't know if the lecturer is guilty or innocent.

 

If we are going to convict someone surely we must have some sort of procedure for doing so that is fair and just. It would seem to me that running on assumptions like those made initially just isn't fair and is probably responsible for a lot of heartache and grief in the world.

 

We don't know what the lecturer would say if confronted with the evidence of the Internet history, we don't know how many people have access to the computer, etc. there are just too many unknowns to come to any conclusions here.

[riobikini]

re:

 

kjl933: " I am surprised that the University would not have filters. "

 

The same question formed in my mind, as well.

 

-Rio

[Craig]

re:

 

kjl933: " I am surprised that the University would not have filters. "

 

The same question formed in my mind, as well.

 

-Rio

 

Ditto then I thought that maybe faculty Internet access is not filtered.

[norajane]

Awww Rio you are right but it also protects the innocent as well. I never like to see someone convicted of something they didn't do. I don't know if the lecturer is guilty or innocent.

 

If we are going to convict someone surely we must have some sort of procedure for doing so that is fair and just. It would seem to me that running on assumptions like those made initially just isn't fair and is probably responsible for a lot of heartache and grief in the world.

 

We don't know what the lecturer would say if confronted with the evidence of the Internet history, we don't know how many people have access to the computer, etc. there are just too many unknowns to come to any conclusions here.

 

If he's just a lecturer, for all we know it's his own personal laptop that he's using and not the university's anyway, and he's using it from his own home.

[riobikini]

You are right, Craig.

 

Still, another thing that Hannah said in her post, caused me to think: she said, " He is in a serious relationship (not married) with someone couple of years older than himself so it's not like he isn't getting any sex."

 

I think we can all agree that looking at porn doesn't necessarily mean that someone isn't getting sex.

 

It's just disturbing that Hannah's experience is probably fairly normal for the workplace.

 

By the way -where were the girly mags hidden in the "old" days before the pc?

 

-Rio

[Craig]

If he's just a lecturer, for all we know it's his own personal laptop that he's using and not the university's anyway.

Absolutely true! See we don't know anything about this guy, his computer or his Internet connection yet.

 

Maybe it is his personal laptop and he surfs porn at his house?

 

Maybe he just bought the laptop doesn't surf porn sites and doesn't know how to clean out the browsing history of the previous owner that did surf the porn sites?

 

Too many unknowns here.

[norajane]

By the way -where were the girly mags hidden in the "old" days before the pc?

 

-Rio

 

Bottom desk drawer, in the back, behind the bottle of scotch.

[Craig]

By the way -where were the girly mags hidden in the "old" days before the pc?

 

-Rio

You know, I never even thought about that but if people have porn on their computers in the office maybe they used to bring the porn mags into the office too. Or maybe the pc gives more users the illusion of privacy and so they are more likely to surf porn sites from work but wouldn't bring in a girly mag.

 

Dunno

[riobikini]

(Laughing)

 

Yep! -office, home, practically anywhere!

 

Porn has *always* been a part of our human society.

 

It's just more accessible, nowadays -a "take-with-you-anywhere" kind of thing.

 

-Rio

[Guest]

the originator of this thread did mention that they 'found' that right?

 

doesn;t that strike you as someone 'looking; for something?

 

i mean, if i was to 'borrow' some computer time it would be for a task

 

not snooping around

[Craig]

the originator of this thread did mention that they 'found' that right?

 

doesn;t that strike you as someone 'looking; for something?

 

i mean, if i was to 'borrow' some computer time it would be for a task

 

not snooping around

Of course but she has a 'slight crush on' him and found porn while snooping though her trusting lecturer's computer so that makes it ok and doesn't reflect poorly on . . .

[BlackHannah__]

First of all, it is university internet connection. He doesn't have internet at home, he told me that. Second, I just saw that he browsed the sites, I haven't checked his hard drive so I don't know if he is downloading anything (very likely that he is). Third, NOONE uses his computer. It's his separate office and he locks it at all times when he is not in there. I have never seen another person in there alone apart from him. I'm his closest student and he trusts me fully so I don't think he thought I would look around, plus when he said that he has to go out and I asked if I could use his computer how could he say NO? It would be weird. He did hesistate for a second though.

 

I have cooled down a bit and think that it's probably no huge deal. He has never done anything inappropriate towards me and he is generally a good kind person and treats me well. I would never do anything to put his job on the line. I was snooping because I was curious to know more about him and I think lots of people in my position would have done the same thing.

 

It's more of a personal dissapointment to me. I have seen the way he looks at me and I really thought that he liked me or at the very least is very attracted to me. Now I just think he is a perv in general and probably looks at all females that way and has never liked me in the first place. That's more of my issue here although I'm aware of how stupid that sounds.