okay so i have posted once bfore

[MiMi78]

I posted on here a while back about me and my h woundering should i stay or go , well i have stayed so far things got a little bit better for a while i did get a job but of course it didnt last long bc he said that it was takeing too much of my time away from the house anyways . i am writting to day bc i really dont know what else to do i am at the end of my rope u could say of course my husband stil thinks nothing is wrong with the marriage . he doesnt want to spend time with me hes always hanging out with the guys and as far as a sex life he acts like he doesnt even want it anymore he would rather be working on he car projects or getting high i have told him about my feelings and that i want him to stop smokeing weed but he cont. to do it I feel like the only way that i am going to get him to realize that i am serious is to tell him that i want us to seperate so what i am asking of you is how do you tell some one that doesnt seem to think there is a prob that u want to seperate i know that its not going ot be easy for me but mostly for my two kids i have talked to my mom about it and she said for me to talk to him and tell him that if he hasnt changed by the beginging of the year that i was leaveing him that i should wait till after the holidays to leave him bc it should be a happy time for my kids i dont knowwhat to do any advice would be greatful you all help so much last time

[Moose]

It never ceases to amaze me how many people are willing to bale out of their marriage because the other person won't change.

 

I'm not familiar with your situation, but has your husband been unfaithful? Does he physically harm you?

 

If not, you're thinking about leaving him because of his habits? You're thinking of seperation to get him to conform?

 

See, some see this as manipulation of sorts.

 

People do change and grow out of immature behaviour like your husband is displaying. For some it takes longer than others. But it does eventually happen, as long as they don't kill themselves before then, being idiots. (myself included).

 

Maybe individual counceling would be better at this point?

[a4a]

Going to MC would be the first place to start but I am guessing he will refuse.

 

Keep this in mind (may or may not apply as you did not give the info)

 

Pot is illegal. Not knowing if he carries this on him, has a stash in your house or not. IMHO illegal drugs do not belong in the same home where children reside. A stoned or drunk parent will not be able to handle emergency situations with children like a sober one can.

 

It does not sound like he will be willing to quit or meet his family obligations. You should seek out a support system for the emotional well being of yourself and your kids now. He certainly is not being a good role model for these kids at all, so it will be up to you to do so on your own.

[Mr. Lucky]

I posted on here a while back about me and my h woundering should i stay or go , well i have stayed so far things got a little bit better for a while i did get a job but of course it didnt last long bc he said that it was takeing too much of my time away from the house anyways . i am writting to day bc i really dont know what else to do i am at the end of my rope u could say of course my husband stil thinks nothing is wrong with the marriage . he doesnt want to spend time with me hes always hanging out with the guys and as far as a sex life he acts like he doesnt even want it anymore.

 

he would rather be working on he car projects or getting high i have told him about my feelings and that i want him to stop smokeing weed but he cont. to do it I feel like the only way that i am going to get him to realize that i am serious is to tell him that i want us to seperate so what i am asking of you is how do you tell some one that doesnt seem to think there is a prob that u want to seperate i know that its not going ot be easy for me but mostly for my two kids i have talked to my mom about it and she said for me to talk to him and tell him that if he hasnt changed by the beginging of the year that i was leaveing him that i should wait till after the holidays to leave him bc it should be a happy time for my kids i dont knowwhat to do any advice would be greatful you all help so much last time

 

I hate to sound like an 8th grade English teacher, but it's easier for people to give you some feedback (I'm assuming that's why you posted) if you throw in some grammar, a few capital letters and a sentence break or two. Very hard to read otherwise

 

You touched on the most important point - your two kids. Thank heavens they have at least one parent concerned about their home environment. You need to do whatever is necessary to protect them. Good Luck!

 

Mr. Lucky