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So my husband wants to quit smoking...and I don't.

 

OK..Wait...I'll say it for you guys....."Its bad for you" "Shortens your life" If you love him and he wants to quit, than you should too"

 

I dont make him do things he doesnt want to do. He's all about socalism and the witholding of peoples rights and all that. If i dont want to quit, why do I HAVE to.

If your gonna die, your gonna die. Crossing the street, driving your car..WHO KNOWS!? Some of you are gonna tell me all the bad qualities of smoking and blah blah.

 

I Like it! I don't wanna quit! (so don't try to convince me)

 

And of course not only 1 can quit. We both have to.

What to do, what to do?

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So my husband wants to quit smoking...and I don't.

 

OK..Wait...I'll say it for you guys....."Its bad for you" "Shortens your life" If you love him and he wants to quit, than you should too"

 

I dont make him do things he doesnt want to do. He's all about socalism and the witholding of peoples rights and all that. If i dont want to quit, why do I HAVE to.

If your gonna die, your gonna die. Crossing the street, driving your car..WHO KNOWS!? Some of you are gonna tell me all the bad qualities of smoking and blah blah.

 

I Like it! I don't wanna quit! (so don't try to convince me)

 

And of course not only 1 can quit. We both have to.

What to do, what to do?

 

Just don't smoke in his presence, go outside to smoke if seeing you smoke will hinder him from quitting. Instead of fighting his desire negotiate and find a way to support him.

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Just don't smoke in his presence, go outside to smoke if seeing you smoke will hinder him from quitting. Instead of fighting his desire negotiate and find a way to support him.

 

See we have , lest say, a routine that we always do. We eat dnner and go smoke. We watch a movie then go smoke..Together. Some great conversations were created by a cigarette break. But if I go outside he'll be thinking about anyway so just the thought will make him wanna do it. Not really sure of any good ways to get outta this.

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You can't quit unless you want to. And you aren't responsible for his quitting either, no more than he is for yours.

 

Granted it'd be easier if you'd do it together, but it's your life. You can't stop until you're ready.

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You can't quit unless you want to. And you aren't responsible for his quitting either, no more than he is for yours.

 

Granted it'd be easier if you'd do it together, but it's your life. You can't stop until you're ready.

 

Yeah but it sounds like the OP really prefers if he does not quit :o

 

from her recent post: routine, great conversation, together.........

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Yeah but it sounds like the OP really prefers if he does not quit :o

 

from her recent post: routine, great conversation, together.........

 

 

Uh-oh...I hope that's not true. Is that true, OP?

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Uh-oh...I hope that's not true. Is that true, OP?

 

Yeah so what. But if he wants to quit I'm behind him, I just don't want to.

And between you and I..our backyard is scary and I cnat go outside without him cause I always think theres a guy behing the wall of ivy and trees. shhhhh:o :o

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Yeah so what. But if he wants to quit I'm behind him, I just don't want to.

And between you and I..our backyard is scary and I cnat go outside without him cause I always think theres a guy behing the wall of ivy and trees. shhhhh:o :o

 

IMHO you are being very selfish and immature. It is his body and you should not try to make it more difficult for him simply because you will miss your smoking time together.......you feel rejected?

 

Tell him : I am not ready to quit smoking, but please tell me what I can do to help support you while you are in the midst of quitting.

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Honestly, if there's a guy behind a wall, I think you'll be safe alone.

 

I think the smell will keep him away. :p

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I was just bringing up things i would miss..their not gonna keep me from supporting him..are you kidding, You don't know me, I'm not a selfish person.

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Honestly, if there's a guy behind a wall, I think you'll be safe alone.

 

I think the smell will keep him away. :p

 

I...I;m sorry..the smell of what?

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I...I;m sorry..the smell of what?

 

 

The smell of your cigarette, Silly. Unless the perp smokes. And then you'll have company. Hey, it's a win/win!! :bunny:

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The smell of your cigarette, Silly. Unless the perp smokes. And then you'll have company. Hey, it's a win/win!! :bunny:

 

HAH Way to put a silver liningn on it!!! :lmao:

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HAH Way to put a silver liningn on it!!! :lmao:

 

I do my best. ;)

 

Actually, I'm giddy right now from stopping smoking myself. It's been since Sunday. I'm wearing a patch and sucking unlit cigars, so don't mind me if I'm being a bit odd, kay? :bunny: I'm probably ODing on tobacco!

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I do my best. ;)

 

Actually, I'm giddy right now from stopping smoking myself. It's been since Sunday. I'm wearing a patch and sucking unlit cigars, so don't mind me if I'm being a bit odd, kay? :bunny:

 

Thats actaully sounds like it would work...I'll tell my husband...he'll quite...while not thinking of me smoking!

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Thats actaully sounds like it would work...I'll tell my husband...he'll quite...while not thinking of me smoking!

 

 

Just make sure he doesn't light them...that will kind of defeat the purpose I think. Plus I started alternating running and walking. I go two miles. Today I have to run because it's been two days now. I figure this'll clear my lungs quicker. Tomorrow I'll walk the two miles.

 

Plus I've been drinking lots of water. I heard this clears it out of your system quicker too. I'm not sure if sucking these things is delaying the process though, probably it is, but I don't much care. I don't plan on sucking on them forever and they do help take the edge off so it's working for me right now.

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I Like it! I don't wanna quit! (so don't try to convince me)And of course not only 1 can quit. We both have to. What to do, what to do?

 

give him your whole-hearted support that you already are planning on doing, and explain to him that you're not quite ready to do it yourself. My husband is facing the same thing – he knows he should quit for health reasons, but cannot do so at this time. I tell him that it's okay; he'll do it when he's ready to do it, that nagging or complaining will only compound the problem, esp. since this is his security blanket of sorts.

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My sister did that **** to me, when we lived together. "Come out and smoke with me. At least just sit there and be social. Want a hit?"

 

 

My husband quit waaay before I did. I just have no self-control and didn't want to. Luckily I got pregnant. Now I have a kid so I'm all forced to quit.

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Wanting to continue to smoke, especially when you have the ideal opportunity to quit (having a partner to quit with), is just idiotic.

 

<nothing_worse_than_a_reformed_smoker>

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<nothing_worse_than_a_reformed_smoker>

 

I'm terrified that I'm gonna turn into one of "those" types when I finally DO quit smoking. The Anti-Christ evil anti-smoker..........

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I'm terrified that I'm gonna turn into one of "those" types when I finally DO quit smoking. The Anti-Christ evil anti-smoker..........

 

Don't be terrified.

 

I can understand that when you quit, it'll remove a commonality between you and other smokers, but it doesn't have to get to the point where you and they end up accusing each other of diabolism. If the loss of commonality gets to the point where you can't spend time around them ("Nah, I'll hang around in here. Go ahead outside the bar and have your smoke if you like, I'll wait."/"Shizzle. This just isn't the environment I need to be in at this point in my life."/etc.), that may have an effect on your social life, but it may be for the best. You can hang around people who don't have addictive behaviors along the way...and maybe one of the smokers who doesn't consider you a demonistic anti-smoking crusader might come up and ask you about how you managed to quit.

 

Good luck!

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