almostthere Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 My friend's bf purposed to her this past weekend. This is a second wedding for both of them. they wanted a wedding in the bahamas or an island near there. they also want their family to come. they will have about 40 - 50 guests. I am trying to help her make arrangements but we dont know what is proper. We think if she rents the rooms for the guests (at an all inclusive resort) and all the guests have to pay for is airfare that that would be fair. What do you think? All food and beverages would be paid for plus the room for 4 days and 3 nights. is this excessive? is it not enough? Also, she wants her kids to go, her mom, sister and her h, and one uncle and one aunt. would it be wrong just to invite one uncle and his wife without inviting anyone else from the family? her family is big but she is really close with one of the families inside the whole extended family. Any advice would be appreciated. we were also thinking about a pre-wedding reception. Where all the firends and family come to see them off. It would be a normal wedding reception except the wedding would take place the next day in the bahamas. What are your thoughts? She really wants everyone to go to the bahamas...so thats probably most important. but we do like the idea of the pre-wedding reception. Link to post Share on other sites
kjl933 Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 If they are coming from the East Coast, getting there is relatively inexpensive. Since it is a second wedding, and IF they can afford it, let them pay for the rooms. To be honest, it is a bit excessive if you as me and that will be quite a bill--figure all inclusive resorts average about $225 per person per night. I would suggest that they might pay for their children, maybe their best man and maid of honor, maybe immediate family, but extending it to friends and uncles is a bit much. If there is an uncle that cannot afford it, work out a deal on the side where it looks like he is paying to save any hurt feelings Link to post Share on other sites
Author almostthere Posted October 19, 2006 Author Share Posted October 19, 2006 Also...if it was in the bahamas and you were invited would you go? airfare is roughly $495 per person roundtrip. Everything else is covered except extra spending money. Please keep in mind it is all inclusive. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 I've been to friends' weddings in Mexico and Hawaii and it's not the norm that the wedding couple pays for the guest's accommodations! I can see how they might chip in if a family member or someone in the wedding party can't make it, but it's honestly unheard of to pay for everyone to stay there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author almostthere Posted October 19, 2006 Author Share Posted October 19, 2006 Ok...so if the hotel extends a discount...lets say $175 a night (the one she is looking into is $232 a night she could find a way to say that they will pass the discount along? We are just having a hard time trying to ask people to come but yet have them pay to come to her wedding. I have been helping her out a lot because she looks to me for advice all the time...but i am stuck on this one. Norajane...how many people showed up to the weddings you have been to? Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 If you invite a person to an out of state wedding..... island or not you do not need to pay for each guests hotel or airfare or the gas that goes into their tank if driving. Discounts on the airfare are possible for those that are using the same airline or flight......or a charter if from the same area. I think I would have post wedding reception state side and a few close friends go to the island..... not every person can take 4-5 days off for a persons wedding, that is kinda well........ 'forward' IMHO to expect. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 Norajane...how many people showed up to the weddings you have been to? About 30-35 from the US to the Mexico wedding, and about 20 to the Hawaii wedding. Link to post Share on other sites
kjl933 Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 It is not a catholic wedding is it? There are issues with a non resident catholic wedding there Link to post Share on other sites
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